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Apologies not sure where to post this I have this friend that I've known about 8 months we met on an online dating site I asked multiple times to meet up when I was single and he's always refused but that doesn't seem to stop him from flirting with me and telling me that he's horny I always change the subject or just stop talking to him when he starts acting like that because I have a boyfriend who am happy with and this fella had his chance when I was single and he didn't want to know so now I just see him as a friend how do I get him to stop with all the flirting without upsetting him. I now hardly ever speak to him because of the way he can be at times. It makes me feel very uncomfortable and I just hate it. I try and have a general chit chat with him and he somehow manages to turn in to flirting and it just makes me ignore him because am not interested at all and he somehow doesn't notice when I start talking about random things just to get him to stop.

Block him.

Never contact him again.

He's a twat.

Cut him off. He's no friend, I promise you.

Tried that he always seems to find a way to get back in contact with me. The way he talks just makes my skin crawl it's like he just doesn't care that am with someone. He was given many chances to meet up before I met my boyfriend and he always point blank refused so why be like this.

Thanks youreNotasausage I think your right he's not a friend just a massive creep now I know why he's single.

He's clearly not a friend.

What do you mean "seems to find a way to get in contact"?

Block his phone number, block his email, block him on all social media.

I have tried but he starts up new Facebook pages and changes his number. Think I might have to resort to deleting my Facebook and changing my number.

He sounds a real weirdo. He's harassing you and you are too polite to either ignore him or tell him where to go. Just don't respond and block. Make your Facebook private. He is creepy and no friend.

The only thing I can think of to get him to stop would be getting my boyfriend to have a word with him but I've trying avoid having to do that.

Either ignore him, and/or report his behaviour to Facebook.
Does he know where you live or is it online?
Must be very stressful for you.

With people like that, often any contact, even if you're saying go away, is encouragement to them. You are best to stop all contact.

Wowfugde your right think I am just too polite for my own good think I need to hike up my big girl pants and just tell him to do one. I will make my Facebook private and I will just start ignoring him.

Userthenlotsofnumbers thankfully it's all online and he doesn't know where I live it is really stressful for me especially at a time when I really don't need it. Thank you I will try just ignoring him because I don't want to be encouraging him. I only have to say something like how are you and he comes back with laying in bed feeling horny.

Good luck OP. Soon he'll get bored and probably will find someone else to pester (poor them!).

Thank you userlotsofnumbers am hoping that he will get bored very soon and find some other poor unforuninate sod to pester

Thank you everyone for your help and advice I have spent ages racking my brain trying to think I've said something that makes him think it's ok to speak to me the way he does but I literally can't think of anything that I've said or done to make him behave the way he does.

He's harassing you. Send him one final message telling him to stop or you'll report him to the police.

Don't accept friend requests from strangers on FB. Make your FB private.

Don't reply to texts or answer calls from unknown numbers.

If he keeps doing it - go and speak to your local police station and get some advice.

He's not a friend and his behaviour is deeply unhealthy.

Look at your boundaries.

It's not you. It's him.

This isn't ok.

He's not a friend - block and ignore if he manages to find you again

what they all said - just block him. He's not a friend. He's a creep.

Just stop engaging with him.

He will get bored eventually.

If blocking doesn't work because he keeps contacting you under assumed names call the police.

ScarlettFreestone thank you for your advice I will try that he has to get bored eventually. It is really unhealthy and a bit creepy if am being honest. Thank you I will try the police if he keeps it up. Your right it is him and not me.

BritinUs1 thank you I will just keep blocking and ignoring him.

Thank you itsnotrocketscience your all right he's not a friend he's just a creep.

Stilldrivingmebonkers am going if I just ignore him and block him he should soon get the message.

crazykitten20 I will go to the police if he carries on.

Thank you everyone for your help and advice.