Housework - is this fair or aibu?

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So at the moment DP and I split all bills and housework 50:50. We both work full time. No children. Rent (saving for deposit) and have been together 4 years.

My full time is a standard office 9-5.30 37.5 hours a week job, with occasional UK travel every 2/3 months for usually no more than 2/3 days. I earn UK average for this.

DP's full time can be anywhere from 40 - 60 hours... probably more around 45/55 to be honest. He's quite senior in an Operations role so can generally pick when he wants to work. As long as everything gets done and he's there for the important meetings and such. He earns almost double what I earn.

As I mentioned everything is split down the middle however DP usually spend more on meals/ evenings out than me as he has quite a bit more disposable income.

Recently I've noticed I've been doing a lot more of the housework and he's leaving things which I then do as I don't want it all piling up.

I'm thinking off proposing two different solutions to this problem. Either he needs to buck up and commit to do 50% of the housework. Or, if he thinks he can't commit to this then I'm happy to take on more of the housework at home and we pay bills on a proportion of our salary.

Is that really unreasonable? I don't mind doing more housework but don't think it's 'fair' that I end up doing about 75 / 80% at the moment and still paying 50% of all the bills

Or do I sound a bit precious?....

Gosh I wouldn't link housework to earnings!
Do you share and get him to pay a cleaner to do his share

I think splitting things 50/50 is very fair at the start of a relationship for a few years, but going forward, especially if children are planned you might either want one pot for everything or to pay a % eg he earns 70% household income so he pays 70% of the bills.

He may work 25h more than her but he keeps all this extra money for
Himself

Because he is doing the hours for it.

In terms of bills, the cost is the cost. Could you imagine, going in to a shop, and the shop charging different prices, depending on income.

The rent., bills, etc are the same no matter what the income is - and they both live there. So a 50/50 spilt is fair.

Now that's not to say the OP is a skivvy, they don't have to clean up after him at all, he can clean up after himself (or get a cleaner).

But because he covers more meals out "treats" etc, because he has more income, it would seem fair the OP covers more house work, because they have more time.

Thanks for your input everyone. He's actually come home early today and he's said he'd prefer to get a cleaner twice a week.

I'm only mid twenties so not interested in children / marriage or anything at this stage, but again thanks for all the advise.

My point was does he think mmmm do i work extra 10h this week and keep every penny for myself OR go
Home and do my share of cleaning.... i know I keep all money and get Op do my share instead . Result not

Or...he has chosen a job with longer hours and higher pay,which unfortunately gives him less time to do his share of the housework.
Which is kind of not OPs problem,it's not as if the extra money he earns is going into funding a family lifestyle ,by the sound of it.
If I'd chosen to work 9-5.30, for the work life balance and the free time I'd be gaining,( not saying you have,OP,just hypothetically!) I'd be pretty teed off to spend that free time doing chores for someone else,who was essentially trading my time ( doing his chores) for more money - for himself.....