AIBU to ask what you feed your fussy eaters?

[SeamusMacDubh]

I have run out of ideas (and enthusiasm) for what to feed my fussy eaters. They are DS3 years 5 months and DD20 months old; before people wade in with "if they don't eat what the family eats then let them go hungry", please just don't, my youngest has only just started sleeping for longer than an hour at a time in her own bed at night and I do not want to be up all hours because she is hungry and wanting to breastfeed all night to fill her tummy.

We've got into a rut of fish fingers, veggie fingers, chips, potato cakes, houmous, wraps, chicken goujons, baked beans, cheese, cereal, brioche, sausages, fruit bars, raisins and not much else. DD will eat fruit most of the time which I count as a win but DS won't. They also won't eat the same things, one likes half of the above list and the other likes the other half.

I HATE planning my shop and meals for the week. I feel most of the time that I might as well open my purse and throw my cash in the bin because 75% of what I give them gets thrown on the floor/walls or wasted because they refuse to eat it. (Yes, I discipline them and tell them that we don't throw food and if you don't want to eat it then leave it on the side of your plate.)

Please MN, I really need ideas and inspiration for things to feed them and strategies to try.

Concentrate on what they will eat but add a little something else on the plate, if they try it great, if they don't, it doesn't matter. If they keep seeing the same things though, they become more familiar, so then they are more likely to try them. My youngest has always been fussy but by doing the above, we eventually managed a plain meat, potato and veg type meal, so although not varied is healthy and easy to make our find of out and we can vary it with sauces for ourselves so not having to make entirely separate meals. She will also eat pasta but not success, only grated cheese or gravy.