To think people don't understand the term "wendied"?

[MasuMara]

To be "wendied" you invite a new person into YOUR friendship group.

This new person then turns that friendship against you.

HTH

As a pp said, it is a reference to a Judy Blume book.

(On a side note - I loved those books as an angst ridden teenager!)

Don't know the term but it sounds like it has been misrepresented by the way the media uses the words 'trolls' and 'trolling' in the meaning that people are being generally nasty online. Trolls and trolling were terms where they (trolls) would purposefully antagonise a group ironically but now seems a blanket term to cover anybody on the internet that is acting like a dick.

But just why would "people" understand the term "Wendied" ?

It's a Mumsnet construct arising out of a thread quite a few years ago. An odd thing to start a thread about

I've seen many posts where it has been used to describe general friendship group/clique issues and not the specific situation the term arose from.
Is it really nasty? It's used to refer to someone's nasty behaviour. I don't think it suggests that every Wendy is a horrible person.

Judy Blume book? Can you link?

I was on the original thread on Mumsnet. Op referred to a friendship issue within her group. She said something along the lines of "so there is this woman within the group, let's call her Wendy ..." and it all went from there. She could just as easily have called her Brenda or Mary or Esmerelda afaik.

She called her Wendy because of the book.

I am going to have to read the book again. I haven't read it since I was 12.

Ah, I see.

So is our op talking about the Judy Blume book or the Mumsnet thread? Either way, why on earth does she think most people should understand what the Wendy shortcut means? It's very peculiar.

My recollection of Blubber is pretty sketchy too - I remember the main character (Jill?) starts out by bullying the Blubber girl (was she Wendy?) but then the tables turn and the main character ends up being bullied.

bibbity that's how I remember it too. Maybe other posters subsequently pointed out that it was an apt moniker because of the JB book?

I think the Blubber girl was Linda, and Wendy was the main bully who picked on Linda then became friends with her and excluded Jill.

I don't expect people to just know that term but I come across people on here using it to describe the wrong situation.

It's not a reference from a book.

It's also not a clique thing.

But it is a clique thing. You are complaining that people are using an obscure piece of terminology to describe a situation incorrectly. A neglible number of people know the MN thread you are referring too. Words change and evolve in language, especially if they are jargon. If you actually Google the term, most of the headline items refer to Scottish politics. Therefore YABU. More to the point, does it really matter as long as people clarify what they mean in the more recent thread?

OF COURSE its a clique thing. It's a term invented by a small group, used by a slightly larger group, and now you are complaining that people outside that group are using the groups term wrongly.
IT's the very essence of a clique thing.

Both Wendy's I know are absolutely lovely salt of the earth type people, who would never dream of behaving like that. Not a very nice term as it tarrs Wendy's with the same brush.