Hi all, thank you all for the replies- I've taken note of all the advice given, thank you.
Can I just make it clear again - I am not blaming my landlord for asking for his house back. I am well aware that that is his right. I did my utmost to try to move us all before the section 21 expired. I have continued to pay my rent. But I do blame him for becoming intimidating, threatening and difficult because we are still here when I have made it quite clear to him I am not here by choice. I blame him for ignoring every call and email the council have sent him asking for why he is evicting me just to make things difficult for me, for continually lying to me to try and scare me into leaving. It is the council who insisted he had to apply for possession and now eviction, even though I will be the one landed with the costs. If he is angry at anyone, it should be them not me. On the whole, I have been a good tenant- I've kept the house and garden nice and well looked after, always made sure I've been here when they required access and paid my rent on time the vast majority of the time. There is no need for him to behave like this.
My degree and my daughters A levels are a priority. She is taking a gap year to travel and get work experience before applying to Uni to do teacher training. DS1 (25) got a good degree in engineering and is now an aircraft engineer in the military. DD2 (23) is just about to graduate with a first. I had my eldest son at 18, but went on to do a psychology degree, I had a good job, and then when I met my husband help him run his own telecoms company. We had a good income and a good life. Unfortunately, the strain of having a disabled child and working long hours took its toll and our marriage suffered, we started to argue. Ex 'DH', completely unknown to me started using cocaine as many others in his profession did to get through the long hours. Two years on and he was completely addicted, and had gone from a good Dad to a violent wanker, who used to smash all our things up and terrorise us. He was violent to me,once smashed a bottle on the wall above my head while I was feeding our DD. I ended up having to literally run for our lives after one violent rage, where DS2 tried to step in and my EX head butted him breaking his glasses and then went and smashed every single thing in his room up. I later found out he hadn't paid the bills for months and was left in massive debt. I didn't come from poverty, my Dad was a surgeon. I didn't lack ambition, choose an easy life on benefits, have children without thinking first. I didn't choose to be a lone parent, who would? I know I shouldn't be rattling on about this, but I am sick of people pigeon holing me by the circumstances I am in, and inane comments such as the one saying people can only be homeless in this day and age if it is their own fault. Because susannah I was you once, and one day you could be me. Almost anyone could. Rant over ;)
So, anyway- as I have said before - as hard as it seems for some to believe, I have no ex and no family I can ask for help. It is just us. I have a Mum who has severe mental health problems (schizoaffective disorder and bipolar) who I see as little as possible, I just drop up meals for her or she wouldn't eat. She doesn't take her meds so I can't have the DC's around her as she frightens them with the things she says (she has severe paranoia and delusions). My ex does not see my DC's- he also spends his time in and out of psychiatric units now because of how years of cocaine addiction affected his mental health. So that's it - the people who should perhaps be able to support us can't. If anything the reverse is true- I have to support them. I don't have many friends- I had depression and PTSD after leaving my ex and isolated myself for a long time. I find it hard to trust people. That said, the friends I have left are the ones who stuck by me regardless and they are true friends who have genuinely wanted to help me, but are limited in what they can do as only 3 or 4 are still local to me.
Anyway, I've spent the day packing up. The housing officer has also said I need to be ready to go immediately in case the LL does get a high court writ. I'm about to go and fill out an income/ expenditure form to see if I qualify for a loan towards removal and storage costs. I then have an appointment to see the finance office at Uni again. Later on, I will try and ring Shelter again. I'm a bit confused as the housing officer says I will still not be eligible to apply for council housing even when we are homeless/ in temporary accommodation. She says I will still have to find a private let. How? Nothing will have changed and the cheapest rents will still be way above my price range. I give up, I really do.
With regards to transferring course, I have asked and `I can't do that and keep the bursary apparently. I would have to restart the course. I also can't move DS4 from his school- he would not cope with the change at all. He started secondary last year at a school that are fantastic with ASD. He missed his last 2 years at juniors due to school refusal and bullying, in just a few months at this one he has gone from being way below average to top of his class in most subjects. His attendance rate has been 97%. The head teacher even voluntarily wrote us a letter to use if needed to say how detrimental a move of school would be to him. Longer term, I do want to move out of the south east of theres any way I can. But right now, I can't.
Anyway, sorry for the waffle, and thank you all again for the advice and support. It means a lot that some people actually do care.