To be completely overwhelmed with life?

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Everything just feels too hard. The only things I enjoy are eating and sleeping. I've spent the whole BH weekend mostly asleep or stuffing my fat face.

I've dragged myself to work because if I don't work I don't get paid. But I really feel I'm struggling.

I have felt like this for so long i can't remember being 'normal'. The advice is to write a list, but my list overwhelms me even more,

I want to lose weight. Actually no, i need to lose weight. I've gained 3-4 stones in the last couple of years and i was overweight to begin with. But when I'm eating i feel relatively happy, until i see my fat reflection on the mirror or have to squeeze into my clothes.

I need to go to the gym or do some exercise but i can't get up early enough in the morning to go before work (I'd have to leave at 6am) and after i get home in the evening i just feel too tired. So i never do anything other than housework.

My car needs repairing or scrapping if the repairs are too much, but i can't get a quote over the phone, garages just bullshit me because I'm a woman. One said i should get my husband to bring it in. I'm not taking it there but if i can't find anywhere I'm stuck with no car, I'm 2 weeks in now and it's awful. I used to use my car daily.

My house needs work. Not difficult work, mostly decorating. Almost all the woodwork got replaced (including doors) a few years ago. I started painting, never finished. I thought maybe i could hire someone but people were looking for thousands and I just don't have that money. Nor do i seem to have the mental energy to do it myself. Doing a room would take me a week, even just a door takes a whole day. I think I just am slow.

My garden is no better, i paid someone a lot of money to clear it all last year but i haven't done anything to it since and its covered in horrible thorny weeds again. Part of the problem is that the people i hired just cut stuff down but all the weed roots were still there, and they didn't cut back any of the overgrown bushes I asked them to either so grass isn't growing only weeds.

I got someone to fix my roof and gutters last year but they also did a poor job and now my roof is leaking again and the gutters are blocked. I feel like everytime i pay for something it's never done well but i can't do it myself so I'm stuck.

It probably sounds so minor written down but to me it just all feels insurmountable.

Ok - here's your list, do them in this order:
Car - look for a garage that has been established a long time or been in the area for years
When that's fixed, do the
Roof do you have a 'Green book' or local directory of good, recommended tradespeople? Then onto the
Garden can you get friends round to help with drinks and a picnic? Or failing that, a
General handyperson will be able to sort out the basics and the house stuff.
Then onto
Weight - by this point you will be feeling much more positive and it won't seem seem an insurmountable problem.

Good luck but you do need to make a start

How old are you? Could you be perimenopausal? I only ask as that feeling of being completely overwhelmed totally rings bells for me in my peri state.....

I've weedkillered the garden with the strongest stuff you can buy. Unfortunately the weeds still come back. We are going to set aside a day at the weekend to tackle it together, DC included, hoping we might make a dent in it, but garden is 80ft x 30ft and about half of it is weeds and brambles, so I don't know how far we'll get. I do need to get some tools first too as I cant find ours, I can't do that before the weekend as no transport to the diy store.

I'm not sure where to turn with the car. I've used garages that are long established in the past (one recommended to me, one that had excellent reviews) and both overcharged me and did a bad job. I don't have many friends so I'm at a loss who to ask. I'll just have to keep ringing round. I can't drive the car round to different places as it's mot has expired.

I probably am perimenopausal. Apologies for tmi but I also get awful heavy periods, lasting 3-4 weeks or so (and then nothing for a couple of months). GP can only give me tranexamic acid which I won't take any more because the period after I've finished taking it is absolutely horrendous, at least twice as bad as anything I'm suffering now.

Re my GP, advice I get when I go there is to get on with it, everyone feels overwhelmed but I have to deal with it, and they can't sign me off or medicate me, nor can they help me with my weight. So what can I say to that? I don't want to take time off work for an appt and then just get told the same old stuff.

Start decorating this weekend. One room at a time. It doesn't take too long and if you can just do one room you will feel such a sense.of achievement. Hopefully just getting one thing done will help your lack of motivation ...

Maybe I'm slow but it takes me a whole week to decorate a room, a day just to empty the room and find a temp place for everything, then prep time, glossing (each door takes me a day minimum), then painting. I could do a door at the weekend but not a whole room.

I tried contacting my GP, there are no appts before 9 or after 6 until 27 June. I booked one anyway but it seems a little futile.

What exactly is wrong with your car?