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In letting ds and ddog outside?

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yayayahey · 29/05/2017 13:55

We live in the States and it's a bank holiday here today too, but for Memorial Day (which is to remember people who died whilst serving in the armed forces.)

We live down the hill from a cemetery. It's a pretty small and old one, nobody has been buried there in the last 70 odd years.

This weekend has seen quite a few people up there, mostly tourists but I expect there's a few who are visiting the graves of relatives.

We've been out in the garden most of the weekend planting the veg patch and ds (3.5) has been playing. He's not a particularly noisy kid at all, doesn't shout or scream (or hasn't this weekend at least Grin). Ddog has been out with us too, occasionally will woof when she hears someone up at the cemetery (she has radar ears) but after a minute or so we'll put her inside if she's ignores requests to stop.

I just had somebody come to my door and tell me I should have more respect and keep ds and ddog inside all weekend as they can be heard from the cemetery. I apologised and asked if they were visiting a relative there and they said no they were just sight seeing but were still offended.

I'm in two minds as to whether I'm mortified and have been disrespectful, the cemetery was here before our house was and we choose to move here or just eh, the kid was playing in a normal, babbling to himself kid way and it's silly to have to keep him inside all weekend.

Dh thinks they were rude and ridiculous --but then he has the social awareness of a dead duck so that's no help.

Our nearest neighbours are a 10 minute walk away but I do always try not to let the dog bark or ds be too crazy as I'm aware sound carries.

OP posts:
yayayahey · 29/05/2017 17:42

I love that phrase. Says 'fuck off' without actually having to say it.

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TwitterQueen1 · 29/05/2017 17:52

Keep the dog and DS inside all weekend? Really? How utterly ridiculous.
Your H is right.

The dead don't care. The living should welcome life in all its forms.

I don't understand how a little boy playing in his garden should have any impact on people looking round a cemetery. I used to play in a churchyard when I was a child. I loved the stories the gravestones told.

Lisa9819 · 29/05/2017 18:10

No, they were in the wrong to ask you to be quiet on your own property, that is ridiculous. I live in the states as well and there is no expectation of neighbors of cemeteries to keep quiet. Its one thing if someone is having a burial service I probably would be throwing a raging party with the music on blast... but you are living everyday life. You sound lovely. If the person comes back to your door, let your dog outside.. Grin kindly say "freedom of speech", smile, close the door and carry on.

BlurryFace · 29/05/2017 20:43

I live on an estate next to a new cemetery, once they start burying people in it all their mourners will be treated to my neighbour's shitty Nu-Metal amd drunk shoutimg like everyone else round here. Hmm

YANBU, OP, people must make allowances for normal living noises. Were that cemetery in a more built up area they wouldn't even be able to pick out the noises you describe amongst all the traffic/other people etc.

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