To wonder if people who so frequently reply with LTB are genuinely trying to help

[Calvinlookingforhobbs]

there are so many replies on here that suggest LTB as a 'fit all' solution. I am curious if those of you who have said it, have genuinely weighed everything up before replying or if it's a knee jerk response that is easier to type than fully comprehend?

I'd agree with Nellie:

"ive only seen it either clearly as a joke - my husband ate my kitkat ... ltb

or in response to an op describing an abusive situation."

It is true that when a RL situation has come up, I have sometimes been too cowardly to say something. But so relieved when they did.

To me it's not up for discussion when it comes to explaining how I viewed the post. Why would it be? You have your view and I have mine. Surely that doesn't need discussed?

So you came back to explain that you are refusing to explain your viewpoint - that posters are stupid for saying LTB - any further?

I see.

I actually think it far more often than I post it. I regularly see people put up with stuff in a relationship that I wouldn't put up with for a second but I try to save it for the truly miserable/abusive/shit relationships.

In real life you have a relationship with your friend/sister etc so you will be interacting with them after you say leave him even if they don't. So I think people are more careful in real life. But I would always say "leave" in an abusive situation and would probably say things like "what do you think yourself, are you happy? would you be happier without him" rather than a straight out LTB.

I haven't said it but had it said to me on here.

I think it's useful as it it a short hand way to say 'wake the fuck up girl, this ain't normal'. It's not prescriptive advice but more a way of giving someone a virtual shake IYSWIM.

I didn't start this post to offend or attack anyone. I see LTB often and was genuinely curious about the thought process behind posters who wrote it.

I have written a coupe of times and wholly agree that it can be what the OP needs to hear etc.