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Best friend and Birthday party

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Busybee233 · 28/05/2017 18:36

Planned to go to the races for my 23rd birthday instead of a night out. Tickets cost 59 pounds which is cheaper than a night out. I've said I will pay for a chauffeur service to the event and back. For my group of friends birthdays we normally do a night out. For her birthday we planned to go to London and I booked a hotel she later cancled so I had to pay a fee to re book for another weekend and then pay to go on the night out locally. She's also asking to go on some nights out next month. I've always gone to every birthday of my friends I've never had a proper birthday party as friends have always been ill or I've been away. I'm really annoyed that she's now saying She might not be able to afford it I know she has the money I've offered a hat and a dress I know she's worn before if she's worried about outfit costs. She's also going to another friends birthday as well

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Chloe84 · 28/05/2017 18:40

YANBU. Don't waste money celebrating her birthday again.

Why are your friends not helping you celebrate your birthday? There seems to be a pattern.

Aeroflotgirl · 28/05/2017 18:43

That is crap, now you know where you stand with her. Don't put much effort into her birthdays again

TeenAndTween · 28/05/2017 18:52

Presumably once at the races though they still have to pay for drinks / food / bets so there will be additional costs?

Whocansay · 28/05/2017 18:54

This woman is very long way from a 'best friend'. She sounds like a casual acquaintance at best. Don't keep trying to buy her. She isn't interested. You have to remember that it's an invitation and she isn't obliged to go if she doesn't want to. You have to find some better friends who will appreciate you. Stop chasing this one.

Busybee233 · 28/05/2017 19:24

Yes she will but on nights out we regularly spend hundreds on taxis entry drinks food new dresses for my last birthday she was amazing and was the last one to leave but I don't have many friends and felt a little shit because the party was shared with my sister and I only had one table compared to my sisters 4 tables

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Busybee233 · 28/05/2017 19:25

Sorry to drip feed known her since primary school see each other once a week for dinner or cinema

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peachgreen · 29/05/2017 13:06

£59 to go to the races - especially if you're not interested in going to the races - is a bit ridiculous, I wouldn't go either.

Bettyspants · 29/05/2017 13:09

It's not just about going to the races though Is it? It's about celebrating a friends birthday doing what's they'd like to do. Op she sounds a shitty friend, I've been in the same situation and feel much relieved to be out of it!

peachgreen · 29/05/2017 13:10

Tbh I think £60 for a minor birthday is also pretty ridiculous but maybe that's just me!

Busybee233 · 29/05/2017 20:45

She loves the races where actually all going this week and next for her birthday to she also got really upset when loads of people couldn't make it

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Busybee233 · 29/05/2017 20:46

@peachgreen 60 for a birthday is cheap my circle of friends regularly spend way more or have big black tie party's in marquees

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