To say if you are sick do something about it and stop moaning?

[8DaysAWeek]

DH took last week off work as a holiday, just for some down time and nothing in particular. It has happened to coincide with him having a bad cold and a "blocked back" which has seen him coughing and spluttering dramatically, while walking about the house like a 90 year old crouched over and holding onto his back.

He's doing my head in. Not because it has rendered him unable to do any household chores including helping look after the baby and walk the dogs, but because he won't do anything about it. No visit to the GP, not even one lousy ibuprofen.

AIBU to say if you are unwell but not actively trying to help/alleviate it then you automatically forfeit the right to moan incessantly?

My dh had a bug last weekend. He ensured everyone knew he was sick by throwing up as loudly as possible and groaning almost constantly. Apparently it was a 'super bug'. Three days of patheticness in the end. He is lucky to be alive and not because of the bug.

At one point, he lay on the settee and told me he thought he was delirious. Despite the fact that we were chatting normally. He got pissed off because I didn't keep going upstairs to ask him if he needed anything. I was a bit busy with out 5 you and 18 week old!

"Lol if he's a man he doesn't have a cervix!!"

Oh dear. Use a dictionary.

Back pain can become really serious, and permanent, eg if nerves are damaged. Lots of people don't take it seriously enough early enough IMO. Sounds like his is a problem if pain is radiating down his arm: he should seek advice and, if the health professionals agree, do special exercises and have a workplace assessment to try to prevent it becoming a chronic problem.

Oh people who do this are so irritating! "I'm sooooo ill! I feel terrible! Everything hurts! I can't swallow or eat. Take some medicine? Oh no I couldn't do that..." And whine on repeat.

My DH moans like buggery when he has a cold. But then when he collapsed with a suspected heart attack (turned out to be irregular heartbeat) and then a very real thrombosis in his thigh, he was incredibly stoic and jollied us all through it. I tend to cut him some slack nowadays if he feels crap with a virus. We all appreciate a bit of TLC. Also. A doctors' appointment for a cold? I really hope not.

If he was REALLY ill, he wouldn't have the energy to moan on about it...

That's true, Worship. People with proper flu generally can't speak because they feel like they have a hatchet in their head. And have to get to the loo on hands and knees due to being too weak to stand up. But most of the time they are just asleep. That is true flu.

Isn't the cervical bit of your spine your neck?

he doesn't have to see a doctor, a physio or osteopath would be a good start. I feel for you OP!

OP, as an animal doctor, aren't you tempted to put him out of his (your) misery? I would be...