To think he should have offered to stay?

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We had a family event planned today, a 3 hours drive away, a christening. For context there is another event planned in a couple of weeks with the same family.

Unfortunately our two dc are ill (one being a toddler), with a bad virus, high temp, lethargic and the toddler has been sick, not eating anything just generally very poorly. No one has had much sleep for a few nights because the toddler has been up crying. We've had a heatwave here which has just made it worse. Dh has been playing it down saying that they'll be ok to still go, when they're clearly ill.

Now I've woken up with it, I feel absolutely shit and have been up all night sweating then shivering. It's going to be a long day on my own feeling like this and looking after two sick whingey kids.

Dh has not offered to stay and help and has still gone, I did suggest he could stay to help because I'm struggling but his attitude is I should just get on with it.

Tomorrow make sure he does EVERYTHING and I he happens to come down with this and be off work make sure you leave him all day to look after the children.

Should have stayed to helpIf.

If what you have is nasty he should have stayed whet or not you needed help and whether he has already had or might be about to show symptoms. He may pass this on to the people he is seeing.

I haven't left the house in 4 days because my poor baby girl has chicken pox and my lovely fella (father of DD) has decided to go playing on speed boat with his brother and their pals. I am getting agitated being at home all the time. Excuse was, well I'm at home on Monday aren't I so we still get a weekend he works hard so I haven't begrudged him going to have some fun, just need to go and do something! Have arranged for step father to watch her so I can go and do the food shopping (only excuse I have to leave the house). Luckily have a large back garden but if I didn't I'd be going crazy, I feel for you!

You need to cough on his pillow. A lot. Make sure that he gets what you've got. Lick round the top of his glass, leave tissues in his pockets, use his toothbrush.

Then when he inevitably comes down with it you know what to do.

So... when he comes down with it you know what to do, right?

Oops. Re-fresh failure. Point well made though!

He just has zero sympathy for illness. His usual response to me feeling ill is that he feels or has felt worse at some point.

Really? He knows how you feel and feels he can definitely say that? And compare it to how he feels when he feels poorly? REally?

Height of arrogance, presuming to tell others how they feel or don't feel.

Katie, I hope you asked him why he thinks you don't work hard... ass.

Well I hope he gets the lurgy as well, and I really hope you do absolutely nothing for him if he gets ill!