How to get referred to be sterilised

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I've not got post natal depression
I'm not post baby hormonal
This isn't a spontaneous decision

How do I go about getting sterilised??

I don't want anymore kids, not now & not in 10 years time.

I'm not maternal, I never really wanted kids & I certainly wouldn't want to do it alone again.

So mind made up, no more kids

How can I persuade my doctor to refer me??

The implant lasts for three years and, for me at least, has been brilliant. I can't take the pill as they make me depressed.

I asked my GP to be referred for sterilisation after having problems with other methods, falling pregnant whilst using another type of contraception, she was very understanding and referred me. I had it done 4 years ago in my early 40's all very straightforward. Four years later I've had to go back on the pill as I've developed severe PMS, not unusual in the run up to menopause apparently but has made me feel like the who,e sterilisation thing was a total waste of time.
I would find a GP who specialises in family planning to go through r different options, good luck.

I think you should change doctors OP, as I've said on some of your previous posts...

A new doctor might help you find something to help you in the long run too.
Having a hysterectomy/ sterilisation comes with a lot more than just not being able to get pregnant again so you should look into the other affects it would have on you too.

if you're seeing someone you must feel a lot better than in some of your previous posts so very pleased for you about that

But I do think you must be careful as too many steps forward too quickly could result in many steps backwards just as quick.** Baby is still very young so please don't rush into things.

Remember you and your baby boy are number 1 priority!
I hope he's getting along a lot better now and you're sleeping arrangements have improved? 🌻

Could you try going to family planning at a specialist sexual health clinic? I've just been as we want to try the diaphragm, as I can't tolerate the pill and DC2 was a condom failure. The doctor was so much more knowledgeable than any GP's I've seen. She actually listened to me about side effects from the pill and made suggestions for what we could consider I'd the diaphragm didn't work. She also strongly recommended going there to get a coil fitted, apparently if you get someone who does it regularly and so is expert at it do it then it won't hurt to get it put in.

A new doctor might help you find something to help you in the long run too.

Having a hysterectomy/ sterilisation comes with a lot more than just not being able to get pregnant again so you should look into the other affects it would have on you too.

I don't think it's been suggested anywhere that the OP has a hysterectomy, has it? And sterilisation is a very straightforward procedure. Yep, it's more intrusive than male sterilisation but it only involves blocking or cutting the fallopian tubes, there's nothing removed so no hormonal side effects.

The op wrote
"Personally I'd like everything removed, no periods, no womb, no ovaries, no Fallopian tubes. Take it all, it's not needed" on the rise.

What age are you?

I'm 27 and after baby no.3 is here I am going to look into it, don't think I'll get too far 😑

"you can't do that , it would take away your womanhood and change your body"

I would be incredibly worried if i heard that from a partner. What if (God forbid) you had to have something done to your body to save your life. Would he be able to cope with that or end up leaving.

Also it comes across as controlling. Why does he want to control your fertility that badly.

Some areas are not funding female sterilisation now. It's the merina coil or the man goes for a vasectomy.

You mean a man has to have the vasectomy privately i take it. As they are not funding sterilisation.

Ive also seen posts from people who say they work in the NHS on here...........saying they have also cut funding on breast reconstruction after cancer.

What with that and the above..........its women coming last and going without again.

@OnTheRise yes actually OP said herself about getting the whole lot removed in original post...

You say you are not depressed but you sound it to me. If I were a GP I wouldn't refer you. What about having counselling first, then you will be able to tell the GP that you've been down that road, addressed the issues around birth and parenthood and still feel that you don't want any more children?

My GP has refused for years, however after refusing to do my smear recently and insisting I went to the sexual health initiative the very nice Dr has referred me and my appointment arrived today for this coming Thursday. Might need worth seeing if you cam get an appointment at your next local one?

@OnTheRise yes actually OP said herself about getting the whole lot removed in original post.

Ah, thanks for that--I missed it. Sorry for my mistake.

I got sterilised aged 29 after 2 DC, while single. It was a long time ago, before the mirena came out and got pushed so indiscriminately. It's one of the best things I ever did. Apart from anything else I found it hugely beneficial psychologically to know the whole PG, BF etc. stage of life (which I loved) was definitely over and I could wholeheartedly move forward to the next chapter, if that makes sense.

It's awful that women have to fight so hard to have this done now. I understand that vasectomy is simpler, cheaper and has a higher success rate but what use is vasectomy if your partner doesn't want one, or if you split up and want to start dating again? It should be our right to say we no longer want to be fertile, whether or not we have a partner. And saying we no longer want to be fertile is not the same as saying we want to put our fertility on hold, because we might change our minds.

The women I know who have had a mirena or implant fall into two groups - those who love it and think it's the best thing ever, and those who hate it and have dreadful side effects. Anecdotally it seems about 50/50 but it could be the women who are not happy talk about it more. The trouble is, those who don't get on with it have to fight really hard to get the bloody thing taken out again.

Hysterectomy, and especially removal of ovaries, is a very different thing to sterilisation. It would precipitate menopause and, unless you are approaching that age anyway, you'd need HRT to prevent osteoporosis.