AIBU To expect some good manners from NDNs grown up DS?

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NDNs gone away for weekend, we get on great with them. They've left D's home alone with his gf.
Sunny day, windows open, his music blaring (some of that mofo gangsta stuff included).
Hear gf mention party. Now, I have No Issue with a party tonight and music until the sun comes up (yes! I remember raves) but AIBU in expecting him to tell me?
WIBU to complain if he doesn't pop round to let us know?
I don't think so, but DH is calling me a grouch.
We've no kids at home, just us, so no issue there.

How old is grown up? 18 years? No way will he consider neighbours.
Mid twenties, just maybe?

Do his parents know he's going to have a party?

scurryfunge I completely agree. My 17 yo is the sweetest, kindest boy who would move a slug rather than tread on it.

Would it cross his mind that he is annoyibg neighbours with his music? Absolutely not.

He's 19. His parents have an inkling.
I really don't mind, just would be nice to know so we can go out and treat selves to nice spa hotel for the night, or something.

He doesn't owe you anything.

Maybe the party isn't at their house? MAybe they're just going to one elsewhere?
Good luck..

Why don't you treat yourselves to a nice spa hotel anyway ?

You have no DCs, its lovely weather and if I were you I'd be booking right now

Yabu, if it's a one off then no I don't think the son should tell you, if your not bothered, then why do you feel he needs to tell you.

This isn't manners, it's possibly being courteous.

neonrainbow it's not about owing people stuff, it's just common consideration.

Depends whats meant by party really. If its a huge open facebook invite type affair thats going to have the house descended upon by huge amps and speakers designed to power a nightclub and people bringing their own kegs and stuff then yeah.

As a teen I would often say 'party' when it was just a few friends meeting up that night to get high.

YABU and a bit creepy, eavesdropping on them.

Lol at eavesdropping, I couldn't help but hear as they had to shout to each other to make themselves heard above their music.
As it was, they must've gone elsewhere. Past parties have been beer kegs on front lawn, around 50 people. So was just checking.

He's under no obligation to tell you and you have no right to complain just because he didn't tell you.
If the party gets out of control or is too loud, then you have grounds to complain.