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AIBU to feel like I've failed at my chores?

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IheartDodo · 26/05/2017 12:40

My DP and I have been together over 5 years, lived together on and off but been where we are for about 18 months now.

We decided to split the household stuff so that he did all the cooking, and I did all the cleaning and washing. I thought this was working ok, occasionally it's a bit grubby as my work means that I tend to be busy in "waves", so sometimes there'll be a few weeks where I work ridiculous hours and I haven't actually done much cleaning for the last fortnight (I've done several loads of washing, cleaned the kitchen floor once, and cooked one dinner when DP was home late). DP works 9-5 with the occasional evening from home.

Then the other night, my DP suggested we get a cleaner for an hour or two a week. So they'd do the basic clean and I'd do any extra stuff/washing/changing beds etc.

Is this ridiculous? On the one hand, it'd be quite nice, and we can afford it, and my DP said he "wasn't having a go at me" but I work a lot and he wants to make it easier for me.
On the other hand it feels a bit pathetic, it's not a big house, it's just 2 adults and 2 cats... shouldn't we be able to do this?

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MoggieMaeEverso · 27/06/2017 10:01

That's great iHeart Smile

You are providing someone with an additional source of income, and setting a great precedent for when you have kids and even less time!

IHeartDodo · 30/06/2017 13:19

So a new problem: I may be in love with the cleaner Wink

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IHeartDodo · 30/06/2017 13:20

(joking obviously)
But I don't know why I resisted, I did a little happy dance when he left!

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livefornaps · 30/06/2017 13:26

I'd just do it. Embrace it. Your dh sounds lovely.

I don't think anyone should have to justify having a cleaner - you're employing someone so what's the problem?

IHeartDodo · 30/06/2017 15:09

Thanks livefornaps - see update!
Not DH though, just boyfriend!

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