To be totally pissed off with "D"H

[Falconhoof1]

I'm supposed to be working today and H is off so looking after kids. Well, he called me at 9pm last night to say there was a leaving do at work and he was staying out for a while. It's now 5:40am and he's not in bed. There's a chance he's downstairs but if so it's because he's too drunk to get upstairs. I'm so pissed off. He hardly does any of the childcare and on the rare occasion I have to work he goes and gets pissed. I hardly slept last night too (combination of heat, DS waking me, and realising I don't know if H is home). If he's in I will have to leave poor kids in house with a comatose father. If he's out I can't go to work (kids are 8 and 12). I could leave 12yo alone but not with 8yo.

Actually I think him looking after the DC = day off to recover from hang over...

He thinks it's completely fine to leave them looking after themselves.

OP, love the name. Put troll in bag.

I just phoned DD. Lazy selfish prick (or "dad" as she calls him) still in bed and kids sitting around bored. Told them to go have really LOUD fun on the garden.

Actually I think him looking after the DC = day off to recover from hang over...

He thinks it's completely fine to leave them looking after themselves.

That was my thought as well. He thinks 'taking care of the children' means lazing around having a day off responsibilities. AKA presumably how he sees most of OP's days. Fantastic.

I don't really want to live like this. I guess this is just the tip of the iceberg.
Thanks for your input everyone.

Thanks fox

I've nothing against a few drinks at a leaving do, even getting a bit pissed, but to drink so much that you can't crawl into bed until 6am and then have to sleep it off all day is completely out of order.

Ok the kids are old enough to not need constant supervision but wouldn't it have been lovely for them to go out with their dad for the day in this weather. Prick, they'll be off in a few years and he'll have all the time in the world to piss it up.

My DP used to pull this shit as well. Even funerals turned into all night benders afterwards. No idea what made him stop. I also like your NN. Jump the chasm!

Whilst it's not brilliant behaviour , I think most of the responses here are ott.
He's gone out, for the first time in 2017, got drunk, and is home on the sofa. Dc are old enough to entertaIn themselves. Hardly the end of the world.