Feel free to 'first world problem' and 'get over it' me all you like for this - I am bored and hot with nothing else to do.
Both AIBUs concern same event: next Sunday my group of (female) friends are travelling to Salisbury. It's roughly halfway between us and another friend from the group - A - who has recently moved away to live with her partner, after they managed to buy a house.
AIBU 1: I am on a facebook chat thread with a few of us that are going. The thread is long going, and not related to the event.
Out of the blue, B sends a message:
Hi Paper, it's the trip to S soon! Have you figured out how you're getting there? If you're driving, would we be able to grab a lift?
It's the 'we' bit that gets me - so I message back does she mean her and her partner? No, B sends back "Apologies for not being clearer. It's me and C and D. We can fit in with whatever is best for you."
So at some point they have all had a conversation elsewhere about travel plans, and asked me afterwards? It is almost a given I would drive as it is not somewhere convenient to get to by train where we are meeting.
But I live someway out of the town they all live in - so it would take time to go round and collect them all. Although, in fairness to them, they may offer to meet at a central point/ offer to pay petrol.
I know it seems like a minor thing, but it seems like it is not the first time I have been left out of conversations or discussions have been had elsewhere and then I have been included afterwards as a fait accompli (sp). I will get over myself! There it is, anyway.
AIBU 2 is very short: A's partner has invited himself along on what was supposed to be a girl's only trip. Most of us are single and/ or no other partners will be there. It was stated early on, but probably not repeated enough! Plus I was close to A as we lived together at uni, and it would have been nice to see her on her own. Happy to hear IABU, but wanted to rant all the same!