This is quite outing I think so will try and keep it as vague as I can.
I live in a quiet road with more elderly people than families, but now the weather is nice all the children in the street play outside. I have three DC two primary age and one not at school.
Whenever I leave the house two of the DC who are related ask me where am I going and can they come, before I've even answered they have said their mom said they can. It doesn't matter if I am doing the school run or going shopping or poping to see family they invite themselves.
If I say no not today they say we'll can one of us come and then they start to argue. I have took them with me a number of times anyway to keep the peace but to them it is becoming a habit. As soon as they see me get in the car they will come running over.
It is nice sometimes as they keep my dc entertained but they have started to get a bit arsey with them, ignoring my dc when they ask a question or talking over them when I ask if they have had a nice day at school etc... they argue over who pushes the pushchair and they tut if I ask them to walk a bit faster somewhere.
One has ADHD and gets very loud and excitable. And this on top of my own three children (plus them two) can get a bit much. Especially when I am out wanting to do a simple task.
The other day I kept my children indoors as I was working from home. And the children asked if my dc could go out and play. I said no not today as I can't come outside. My dc are too young to go outside alone where as they are older and don't really need as much parental supervision.
They left but then played outside my house in full view of my dcs which was then winding them up.
Now this is the exciting part. About an hour later the mom knocked on my door and told me I am punishing her children by not letting mine come out. She didn't say it in an aggressive way but enough to piss me off, and done a little giggle at the end....
I said look I am working from home today and I need to get this done so it is easier for me that they play inside, she then said well can my two play too "it's only fair..." I said not today and shut the door
Now I find myself leaving for school earlier than needed and making sure I am able to run to my car in no time so they can't see me.
I don't want to fal out with them but I'm a bit pissed off with the comments she made and also they are not my responsibility.
I am quiet a private person as it is, I like my own space and don't want to be surrounded all the time, maybe that's my problem.
How would you deal with this?
Sorry it is so long! And there was me not wanting to out myself! 