Ongoing issue.
My mum had a 2nd child with her now husband 14 years after I was born - due to age gap and various other things (like the fact that I was blatantly not wanted as soon as she was born - overheard mother saying to her husband that their lives would be perfect if it was just those two and their DD!) we've never been close.
I have tried to be the bigger person though, when she was bullied at school I tried to help, when they suspected she had aspergers, I ran around finding info etc to point them in right direction of help, when she struggled to find work I tried to help - I've always done my best.
Current situation is she's now 22 and they treat her like a baby. The examples are too ridiculous to even put down on here. This past year she's been out of work for 7 months and my mum is constantly on the phone to me saying they can't cope with her etc - I've offered advice, sent her interview questions and answers, physically job searched for her but the situation goes on and little of my advice has actually been taken. Anyway, in my eyes, she's an adult now and having the rest of the family running around trying to help her into work is just getting a bit ridiculous and tedious. The rest of us had to manage, I certainly did since I was thrown out at 16!!!!
Anyway it was her birthday two days ago so I obviously sent her a card. Today I called my mum (as normal, she never rings me) and received a very frosty reception. I asked what was wrong and she said "nothing". However there clearly was something and she obviously had a face on with me. To cut long story short, the only possible thing I can think of is that I didn't put any money on sisters card. Reason being, we don't give money to adults for birthdays now but she knew that. However, she seems to think of it as my sister is a child (at 22!). My sister didn't even get me a card for my birthday, never mind a gift.
I really am sick of the constant mood swings and narcissistic behaviour I've had to put up with for years. I've done nothing but try to help them, despite everything and now I'm actually quite fucked off. My mum never bothers to buy my step kids cards, barely bothers with DH but expects the world and everyone in it to revolve around my sister.
AIBU to be really fucked off this time? The past year I've really gone out of my way to help her and my sister despite working full time and having two kids of my own and then I receive this attitude over the lack of money in an adults birthday card when I didn't even get a fucking card from her?!