It's the same old recycled arguments that happen all the time but nothing ever changes. We're in a deadlock of who's the worst person and deflection, of not listening to each other's point of views.
One of my issue when we argue is that he takes a very 'do as I say not as I do' attitude but doesn't see it that way. For example, sometimes I'll forget to clean the hairs out of the bath when I've shaved. Would drive most people to despair admittedly. But then I'll say yes but everytime you have a shit you leave skid marks in the toilet. But, because he could slip and die in the shower the next day, and no one has ever died from a skidmark, it makes my point utterly invalid and it's just a deflection from the issue. This is just one example of many.
I often say things in the heat of the argument that i regret later on. I can be disgusting in an argument. But he will just make up lies to add to his arguments but somehow that doesn't make them invalid.
I don't really know what the point of this post is really. No.one can know if aibu or not because I'm sure he would tell a different story altogether. I'm no angel, at all. I'm messy, I'm bad with money, and I say things I don't mean. But it's so emotionally exhausting that I'm constantly berated like a child, and have to strive to be a better person, and it's met with incredulity and absolutely no humbleness from his end.