WIBU to give 1 child more money for uni than the other?

[ThePurpleStar15]

I have 2 DDs. One is in London and in her final year. We have covered her accommodation costs (after the bursary amount was deducted) and cover all costs WRT her food shopping and also occasionally brought her clothes, etc. she doesn't have a job and never has had one. She is doing adult nursing though and it has been very demanding.

DD2 is going off to uni in September but to a local uni so she won't move out to do biomedical science. We will still cover all her food costs at home and pay for occasional clothes/treats. She works part time in Sainsbury's.

This is fair isn't it? DH has said the money we have spent on DD1's accommodation should be given to DD to pay for some of her student debt. I disagree as we are paying for all water/electric bills at home so similar to her accommodation??

oh and that girl partied as hard as anyone!

Agree with first poster...being fair doesn't mean being equal. You've supported both DC through uni, that is fair. I think if you were to give DD2 the money saved on accommodation you'd be causing a lot of problems with DD1 who may have chosen a local uni had she have known she'd have been given a lump sum.

Also DD2 is living rent free....so she's not actually missing out is she. DD1 hasn't gained anything, she's had accommodation paid for her in lieu of the fact she has to pay rent otherwise, your DD2 doesn't.

Show your DH this:

I had a row with my parents about this.

I got grants, my younger siblings both had to pay fees. My parents gave them the money for fees and then tried to give me the same money 'to be fair'. I refused on the basis that it was already fair, we'd all had our education paid for.

Extra money ended up being handed out evenly amongst us, but it was a battle for a while.

You've posted before Op. Slightly different background, I think it was grandma that had funded the first DD costs.
I think the consensus was it would be unfair for your younger daughter to come away with £££ debts and the eldest daughter will have none. Something to do with a delayed uni start for the youngest due to MH issues I think, and full fees as no bursary.
So, if this is you then I still think it's unfair that the second DD comes out with 30k debt.

No... Definitely not the same poster! DD2 has no MH problems and she could get a bursary if she was moving away