to want to shake those people who think they'll conceive first month of ttc?

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don't get me wrong, I think it's great if you decide to try for a baby and get pregnant straight away, but I've seen so many people, both on here and in rl who seem to think that all they have to do is come off the pill and voila they'll be pregnant.

and oh yes I know I did it too first time even though I told myself it could take a while, in my heart of hearts I never thought it would.

I just want to say to them sometimes to not get too hopeful because it can only lead to more stress.

Well, fair enough to think it. Not so sure about actually saying it, because as you said, everybody (mostly) does it.

I think it is because you spend all those years trying to make sure that you don't get pg, and worrying if you miss a pill.

I know where you are coming from. I tend to file it in the same category as "people who buy warmers for baby wipes", that kind of thing

I was the opposite. I was convinced it would take ages. It didn't. Caught me on the hop a bit.

I got pg straight away, but I hadn't been on the pill in over 5 years (we used condoms) and, because when we decided to try for children properly I bought an ovulation kit, I knew that I was fertile. Even so I know that I was lucky and many many people struggle - I really don't mention it to anyone in rl and only bring it up now because of this thread.

I know what your saying but i don't honestly think it is worth feeling the way you do about it, everyone dreams & waits for that day when you can start trying for a baby, it's a special time & i think we all like to try & be positive, some times it does happen in the 1st month some times it can take ages but we all learn this through our journey of trying for babies

I've had one of both - a Clomid baby conceived after being told I couldn't have children and DS2, conceived when DH hung his trousers on the end of the bed one night

I agree, it's a trifle optimistic to think you'll get pg first month.

Must say, though that I didnt really think that I was going to get pg straight away and was very shocked a month down the road when the test was positive.

I've conceived 5 times, always very quickly - it's never been longer than 2 or 3 cycles of no contraception - but I've also had 3 mcs. So I find it (privately) very difficult when people get their positive test and immediately rush out to buy baby stuff and book themselves in for the birth. I used to frequent another forum and there was a desperately sad post from a poster who'd miscarried at 6 weeks and a couple of days later had to take delivery of a Moses basket she'd already ordered. I would never say anything as I don't feel my experiences give me a right to be a harbinger of doom, but I do find it difficult somehow - probably because I know I'll never have that exuberance and innocence about pregnancy again.

I remember my brother telling me once "oh me and xxx are having a baby next year". I started congratulating him thinking she was pg. Then he said she wasn't but they were starting trying that month.

I bit my tongue.

It was 3 years before there was a pregnancy announcment. Think he found out the hard way that it doesn't always happen straight away.

i've had one of each too.

told best friend we were trying and had to endure 2 years of 'any news?' and 'am i a godmother yet?'

then conceived ds, after presuming it would take as long again, 9 months post birth while bf-ing and not having had a period... lol

i feel sorry for people who think it'll be that easy tbh and bite my tongue as 9 times out of ten they're in for a shock

Beckybrastraps, I was the same - thought it would take ages and got pg within one cycle the first time, one cycle the second time, and three cycles the third time. So naturally I was a tad overconfident and found it hard to deal with the fact that it took almost a year the fourth time round!

I conceived DS1 first month (first time unprotected sex) but with DS2 it took 2 years to conceive.

I know berolina. I conceive easily but they don't always stick. DH finds it difficult to deal with my attitude to being pregnant, which is essentially not to consider it until the 12 week scan. But he is the hardest hit when it goes wrong.

I thought it would take us ages too - so we were rather suprised when less than one month after the wedding we were looking at a positive pg test .

DS2 and DC3 were concieved without even thinking about trying

OMG. Sorry if I've offended with my terminology. Part of the whole denial thing. I really hope I haven't upset anyone. Bugger. Insensitive.

with ds's I got pg within 6 weeks- I ahd thought with ds1 it would be unlikley to happen (didnt start Af until almost 17, had really irregular bizarre periods etc etc etc). Dh was also convinced he was sub fertile, though that was his evil Mum telling him from a young age that he was like his Dad and would have a jnon-existent sperm count (bizarrely FIL fathered 2 sons in 3 years ).

So when it fdid happen- [shiock]

Bit older this time however so expect a wait

I don't know about this so much - I think I thought that at first - how wrong was I? What I did want to do was thump people who got pregnant "by accident" while they weren't trying (green-eyed monster syndrome).

Twinkle - trust me - having got pg twice without trying (and this one totally unplanned/unthought of) it's not fun - comes as a massive shock - and with this pg was almost the straw that broke the camels back with our marriage !