If I say this to my mum?

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"I'll only tell you what the consultant said if you promise not to ringe me every single day asking how I am"

You're not unreasonable, but she will ignore you and ring you every single day, sometimes twice to see how you are. So there's no point.

What did the consultant say and are you ok?

Depends on what the consultant said

She's a mum - she'll still ring you!

Think to the future and if it was one of your children - would you phone?!

She told me i have fibromyalgia. I have suspected this for a long time. it's not life threatning in any way.
However, my mum completely does my head in and I know she will phone me every single day, and she was doing that quite a lot for a while so i stopped answering the phone and she started ringing my mobile. I know it's because she cares, but when it's every single day, sometimes more, it's annoying

My mum died when I was pregnant with ds - I would give anything to speak to her every day (did when she was alive). Your mum might be overly concerned, but it comes with the job profile - of the good ones anyway.

ruby rioja's idea was a good one, set a time for her to ring or for you to ring her, and set a time limit for the phone call as well. It may work.

Would it piss you off if we ask how you are?

mama, sorry about your mum.
I think the whole problem is that i find it so suffoacting. If i mention that DS1 has a cold, she will phone five or six times in a day, each time saying things like "are you sure it's just a cold? It might be meningitis/pneumonia". Then she will phone the next day and say the same thing, adding "It should be getting better now". I end up questioning if it is just a bloody cold. We have also been having a lot of problems with DS1 behaviour recently. My mum goes on and on about it every time she phones "How's he been today, poor wee lad, if you didn't childmind, if you did this if you did that, then you wouldn't need to tell him off". Or "Well perhaps you need to look at why he pushed you off the dining room chair, i hope you didn't tell him off", or "I hope you didn't tell DH about DS1, he'll just be horrid to him".
By the time she has finished i feel suffocated and like a failure as parent.

No squonk it wouldn't piss me off, I feel relieved to ahve had a diagnosis at last. I am glad that i will now be able to look at ways of treating this and living with it.
I just need to get the message across to mum that she's not helping me by going on the way she does.

Didn't mean to be so sensitive - I do understand what you mean - my ILS are abit like this. Hence my kids haven't had a cold for the past three years (well, obviously they have!) but I can't cope with the 'haven't you taken them to the drs, perhaps they should be on antibiotics' comments. They then call back later that day to check with DH that what I've told them is correct and ask him all the same questions. I would probably be abit selective with the information you give her if you don't feel she will be very supportive.

can you get her in texting you instead - less intrusive I find - easier to ignore!

Don't be a heartless cow.