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To want another baby right now

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babykite · 23/05/2017 20:33

I'm 3 months post partum and it feels like my ovaries are burning with desire for another baby Blush
My partner says nope no way but I find myself dreaming and day dreaming about being pregnant. Most of my waking thoughts are about having another baby and I just can't help but long for it.
My opinion of it is that you never know what could happen, it might take ages to conceive or one of us could be struck with an illness
Good grief I just want another baby!!

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Mistletoekids · 23/05/2017 20:35

Congratulations on your new baby. It's normal to want loads of kids once you realise how amazing it is having a baby but I think you'd regret it if you got pregnant again so fast. Give yourself some special time with this little one then try in a year or so x x x

StumpyScot92 · 23/05/2017 20:36

Ooft 3 months I'd give your hormones (and your fandango) a bit of time to recover personally haha! Particularly if your DP has said no it's a two way street at the end of the day.

I was broody as hell until I fell pregnant (we weren't TTC I was on the pill) and now I'm just terrified Grin

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babykite · 23/05/2017 20:38

I already have an almost 3 year old so I know mostly what it entails and it still doesn't stop me haha! I know now I want a biggish family and having being through a section I know what to expect this time around
I just want it badly but feel I am probably BU as this is my partners first Sad

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StumpyScot92 · 23/05/2017 20:41

Excuse my ignorance here but aren't women told they have to wait a year after a section to conceive again? Or have I picked something up wrong somewhere.

Just if that's the case it isn't worth riding your own health for your current DC's sake until the time is over I'd say Sad

lovelylavender1 · 23/05/2017 20:43

Well, you stamp your little feet some more then. I'm sure you'll get what you want. Damnit.

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babykite · 23/05/2017 20:45

Stumpy I'm not sure I haven't been told anything like that, if that's the case it's really good to know

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SuperBeagle · 23/05/2017 20:48

You are definitely supposed to wait at least 12 months to conceive after having a c section.

But your partner's wishes not to have a second child right now trump yours to have one.

MMmomDD · 23/05/2017 20:48

I was like that after my #2 at around the same time.
Missed being pregnant, missed the anticipation and all that.
It's the hormones, too, i believe.

And it's true - body needs to properly heal after the c-section.

somerandomfucker · 23/05/2017 20:49

No NU, I've got a 10 month age gap between my dc, go for it, if you can talk him round

KallyBox · 23/05/2017 20:54

Try to unpick why you want another one. Focus that energy onto the tiny tiny baby you already have.

I hope that doesn't sound belittling, it's not intended to. But it sounds as if your hormones are making you miss being pregnant, not necessarily wanting another baby quite yet.

For what it's worth, one year age gaps aren't all that uncommon so you aren't the first to get broody around the 3 month mark Smile but if your DP thinks it is too soon then it is too soon.

Babyroobs · 23/05/2017 21:01

No-one ever told me to wait 12 months after a caesarean. I got pregnant with ds2 when ds1 was nine months old.

BarnsligRav · 23/05/2017 21:02

Despite knowing that my youngest was definitely my last, I got very broody when he was about the same age as yours! Maximum cuteness. Ovaries went mad, I was doing all sorts of mental gymnastics to persuade myself and dh that four would be brilliant, I was wrong about only having three etc. It lasted about 6 weeks before I started thinking "wait, actually, pregnancy was bad, and this bit is hard, do I really want to do this again?" the answer was no. I'm now perfectly happy with my three. Still get the odd pang when I see tiny babies or think about giving birth (I'm weird, I loved that bit) but that's all it is.

Of course this was just me, but from what I've heard it does seem to be a common time to get broody. Definitely this needs to be a joint decision between you and your partner.

BarnsligRav · 23/05/2017 21:03

Is he saying he doesn't want any more full stop, or just not yet?

CinnamonSwirlGirl85 · 23/05/2017 21:50

I know where you're coming from as I am the same (although this is partly because we struggled to conceive DS so I feel it will take a long time to conceive again and may actually never happen). Unfortunately I needed an EMCS and was given very clear instructions not to conceive for at least 12 months. Some doctors suggest 6 months should be ok whilst others recommend waiting 3 years 😱. Obviously it's up to you what risk you're willing to take, but the longer you leave it the better your body can recover!

As others have said, clearly if DP doesn't want another child then it's a no go!

Pinkheart5917 · 23/05/2017 21:53

I was the same OP!

I've got 2 dc 11 months apart and you know what I wouldn't change a think, dh was however on board with the idea.

You need to decide this as a couple as it effects both your lives. Put all your energy in to the baby you have you may find this feeling passes?

Tapandgo · 23/05/2017 22:56

Two Caesarian births, and 14 months between them. Was never told to 'wait a year'. No medical issues - but getting pregnant while still on maternity leave was a bit of a 😲

TheLegendOfBeans · 23/05/2017 23:02

I was told to wait a year after CS, didn't listen, got pg 5 months later, lost the pregnancy at 11weeks. It shattered me.

Now - whilst I can't say with conviction one led to the other it upset me so much that never ever ever ever again TTC less than 1 year post partum again.

The silver lining is i am 19w pregnant with baby number two. I got my BFP 52 weeks after having baby number one.

Big hugs and cuddles to you because I know right where you are. It really is worth waiting a bit, I promise x

CinnamonSwirlGirl85 · 24/05/2017 00:01

I'm so sorry to hear that Legend. You poor thing. Good luck with your pregnancy x

JessieMcJessie · 24/05/2017 00:34

Wow, a 3 year old and a three month old and you have the time and has headspace to spend all your waking thoughts dreaming about a future baby? Without being unkind, are you having trouble concentrating on your new little baby? Could this be a form of PND?

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