AIBU or is this real

[JustHavinABreak]

I'm not trying to hoike up my judgey pants here and this is a genuine question. I'm very much in favour of live and let live and to date, I've considered myself to be fairly open-minded but here goes. I popped downstairs to stick the kettle on and feed the baby so plonked myself in front of the TV to do it. Boob out and couldn't reach the remote so I was treated to Jeremy Kyle and honestly I'm baffled! Do people really live like this? How do folk manage surrounded by such drama? I'm wondering now if I'm really sheltered and this is real. Or I'm really out of touch and this is what people want on TV. It's like Jerry Springer only not as classy.

It's one thing having a drama-filled life.

It's quite another being prepared to take that drama-filled life on telly and flaunt it for entertainment. Awful programme.

I know someone who was on years ago because he was convinced his girlfriend was cheating on him. She wasnt. He's just an insecure knob.
To be fair, my life could be an episode of Jk sometimes. Not that I'd ever go on There, but some of the shit that happens is unreal.

I won't have it on in our house. It's just bloody depressing. Imagine the children of these people in a few years seeing mummy or daddy effing and jeffing on TV about who's shagged who and who got who pregnant.

I've read on here about how they court these families, put them up in a hotel overnight before the show, wind them up, get them up early and basically pitch them against one another in front of an audience.

Just like a bloody colosseum when they'd throw people to the lions for fun IMO. We haven't moved on at all. It's all about ratings and £££££££.

Anyone doubting this - what do you really think the motive for bringing these people and their troubles on to the TV is for? To help them and if they happen to argue in front of the camera then we get to watch but that's not the intention? Bollox.

And - to actually answer the OP - sadly it seems this chaos is pretty common. 90% of the young women (late teens early 20s) who come and go from my daughters work place all seem to have awful family lives. The can't hold down the job half the time because of the chaos at home. This is not even in a typically 'bad' area. Rural town surrounded by chocolate box villages.

After my cousin left active service he was very ill with mh- think ptsd and depression. He self medicated and spiralled into addiction. It was heartbreaking. His mil and wife were desperate and couldn't afford rehab. They tried to get him on JK, thankfully he wouldn't agree but producers absolutely hounded him, calling him night and day. It was horrible. I understood his family were coming from a good place but I was aghast at the way they seemed to think JK was "a wonderful person"!
He went on to access help in his community I'm glad to say.

I've also heard that the reason a lot of people look a bit scruffy with no makeup and hair hardly brushed is because they'll give them a call time of say 9AM but then purposefully come to the hotel at say 7AM and say that they've got to go NOW so they just have to throw whatever clothes on and scrape their hair up.

Load of twats they are.

I saw an ex bf on that show he was a drip when I was with him and he was a drip on the show. There is nothing manly about him. He is from North London.

I was in school with a girl who went on the show twice. I actually felt sorry for her. I definitely think they exploit the young, needy, vulnerable etc.

She was a fairly 'normal' girl in school. She was heavily pregnant when we were sitting our final GCSEs but apart from that there didn't seem to be any 'drama' that followed her.

The second time her ex accused her of taking drugs, she denied and wen't on the show to 'prove her innocence' with a drugs test. It showed up negative for what it's worth. The nursery she worked at ended up firing her anyway because some parents complained about the negative publicity.

Was she naive to go on there? Probably. I don't think she deserved to lose her job because her idiot ex decided to make up lies after she left him.

It's horrible. A vehicle to let the stable and comfortable gawk and laugh at people with chaotic lives. I can't stomach it.

Jon Ronson wrote an article, it's in one of his books (can't remember which, maybe the psychopath one) in which he interviewed someone on the production team. I can't remember exactly what she told him but he came away thinking 'god, at least I haven't done anything as bad as that' as he felt her conduct and the exploitation of vulnerable people was awful....

Dumbo. Well done 💐 I'm pleased you 'escaped'.

It's the exploitation of vulnerable people for entertainment . It's awful :(

Most aren't actors, I've known people to go on there. Usually I sit back with my judgey pants on saying "that's not exactly true is it X"
It's an awful show and frequently only puts across one side, with JK picking one side and sticking with it.

Im from quite a small town where everyone knows everyone, I've seen a lot of people I know on the JKshow 🙈

Not actors unfortunately. I trained a guy who went on there many years ago. He was not the brightest person (asked for a day off, was refused, threw a sickie and was subsequently sacked) and was caught out in his lies about cheating on his 16 year old girlfriend within minutes.