To think husband is telling me he shouldn't have to look after baby?

[Herbie22]

Tonight me and DH were talking about looking after DD. I said something along the lines of each little bit (feeding, nappy changes ect) not being too hard but all together it was hard work.
DH said you won't want to do it after work. I asked what he meant and he said he didn't know. I said Do you mean you shouldn't look after DD after work? He said he was talking about when I go back to work in September but obviously I will be looking after her then after work?
AIBU to think he was trying to tell me shouldn't help with DD after work?

to be fair when i returned to work and did 12 hour shifts that finished at 3pm i used to hate going home knowing I had a demanding mini me theb wanting all my time and focus. not necessarily wantinf to do doesnt mean not doing it though!

Well - withoutnhaving heard the conversation, I can't say what he's thinking.

All I would say is that the more he does with his child, the better their relationship will be. He can't expect to be a hands-off, does nothing dad formthe early years of his child's life, and expect to develop a good bond with him.

My dh was very hands on with all three of our children - there weren't any aspects of parenthood he dodged - feeds, baths, playing, nappies, getting up in the night, dealing with illness, taking them out on his own - and as a result (I am sure) he has a great relationship with the three of them.

Some of the childcare stuff is tedious and messy and smelly - but it is an integral part of parenthood, and I don't think any parent should get to cherry pick the best bits, leaving all the (literally) shitty stuff to the other parent.

DH said you won't want to do it after work

I read that as an opener into you becoming a SAHP?

I wouldn't read too much into it tbh. I just told DH he needs to take a weeks holiday so I can "come and go as I please"-parenting is hard.

Bonkers I hope not! I love DD but I love my job and times being Herbie and not Mummy!