To be sick of people calling me quiet

[Diaryofalways87]

I've always been an introvert. That's just who I am. I was constantly told I was shy as a child, which I don't think helped.

Anyway, I was at work today and a colleague looked over at me and remarked to another colleague "she's always making such a racket over there!" to which the other colleague said "yeah I know, I'm always telling her to be quiet".

I was really hurt by this and just blurted out "that's because I actually do work!" which I'm so embarrassed by. I was just really offended.

I'm about 6 weeks pregnant so can't tell whether I'm being overly sensitive or whether I'm justified in being upset??? I did go a bit psycho sensitive during my first pregnancy.

YANBU. It isn't a "shortfall" if someone is quiet. Introversion and extroversion are normal characteristics which are part of who someone is. It's annoying when people try to turn you into something you aren't.

Being chatty is in fashion in the present-day UK, but it hasn't always been this way at every time and in every culture.

Love this thread!

Why should you say more than yes? Because polite chit chat has an important social function in building community cohesion. It's called phatic communication.

Just looked up "phatic communication". The definitions suggest it's basically small talk, and "social pleasantries that don't seek or offer any information of value."

There's nothing wrong with preferring not to join in with chit chat. Quieter people feel connected enough around other quiet people, so that's their preferred way of building community cohesion.

It isn't wrong to like chatting only when there's something more substantial to say, and prefer peace and quiet the rest of the time. (Before anyone gets annoyed, I'm not saying chatty types don't say substantial stuff in addition to chit-chat, of course they do).

YANBU. I'm an introvert, shy and quiet, although I can be chatty when I want to be. Im 30 now, it's who I am and I don't really want to change. When people say "you're quiet' I tend to smile and reply 'yes I am'.

I've had this all my life. When I was in Year 8 most of the teachers wrote in my report that I was a quiet pupil and my mum asked them to please tell her something she didn't already know.

Surprisingly my children are loud chatterboxes.

If someone makes an unduly personal remark in the office then politely invite them to fuck off. Always gets a smile and they won't do it again.

My boss is an expert at this.

I've always been introverted, but less so in recent years. I hate it when teachers and parents make out that kids who are quiet and don't 'stand up for themselves' need to change who they are fundamentally.
I'm much chattier than I used to be. I never imagined when I was young that I would be working in sales. Sometimes at work I have to stop myself talking random crap. But that's because I am comfortable in my team. With strangers, I'm far quieter.

Yanbu! I bloody hate this - I'm temping this week and today got introduced to someone as "this is name, she doesn't say much just sits in the corner quietly all day."

Really upset me

I hate this comment too, iv had it said to me a lot. I'm shy and quiet, I mean I can chat to people but I'm not loud or like small talk. It takes me a while to get to know people. Everyone has different personalities, not everyone is gobby and loud!!

Yeah, me and my dc get this a lot...I think being quiet can make some people nervous, as they can't 'read' you as well, and don't know what you think of them (probably best they don't know mostly).