to be annoyed?

[haventkilledtheorchidyet]

I recently offered a friend of three years a fairly valuable item for her son. I said we'd need to know quickly if she wanted it as we need to make space. She needed three reminders before deciding, then today has changed the time for pick up. I rushed home from an outing to be home for her, and could have stayed out an hour longer with my DD!

Said friend has done me the favour of looking after my DS for a year for a couple of hours after school once a week. I did give her £ to cover food costs but was very grateful she was able to do this. This arrangement is now finished. I try to make this up by always offering lifts to her DS, walking her DS1 and DS2 to an after school activity so she doesn't have to leave work, etc.

AIBU to be a little annoyed about the item and the chasing and the changing of times, and say something, or should I be a big girl and suck it up? Truly interested in people's thoughts!

Oh, this stuff washes over me. Especially if I feel there's some nice give and take that benefits both parties. I couldn't get worked up about the hour.

No YANBU. The thing that'd bother me the most is the fact that she's thowing it up it your face. That she used to do you favours. Yes it was very good of her, but I hate all that.
I did this for you. I did that. If you don't want to do something. Fine don't do it. You're not obliged to, and. If you are going to do it with good intentions.

throwing what in her face Aww?
I wouldn't say anything if its a one off

I'm so sorry. I thought it said. "Friend said" rather that "said friend".
Oh well an easy mistake. I guess

@ Aww

set the date and time if it's not collected the offer it finished and i'd sell it, it's annoying but not worth getting too worked up about imo

I'd be annoyed too. I'd be tempted to say "I wish you'd let me know earlier as I could have stayed out with DD" and see how she reacts. Although the moment for saying that was when she changed the time rather than after it's happened.

You have more patience than me. I would have chased once and given her a deadline i.e. "let me know by Sun and if I don't hear from you by then, I'll put it on Ebay" or similar.

She did you a big favour but it sounds like you've made every attempt to repay it. Some people (many people!) are just oblivious that their actions - or lack of - impact on others whereas you sound very considerate and thoughtful. Unfortunately not everyone is like you!

thanks all - I shall be clearer with my offers in future, let this incident wash over me and feel good about myself, too!