Should I just carry on as normal

[CatBrighton]

Bit of a trivial thing going on but niggling me.
A good friend gave me a bday card in January with a note saying she'd take me out for dinner as my bday gift. Just about this time our daughters had a small disagreement (they're BF's) which was resolved quickly however despite always agreeing not to get involved with kids issues, on this occasion she did and we had a bit of a cool off period, she has not mentioned my bday meal again and I'm embarrassed to ask. It's now her bday in a few weeks.
So my question is do I carry on as normal and spend £30 on a gift or do I give a a card with a bunch of flowers instead.
I know we don't give to receive. I think this is really bothering me more as she hasn't reminded me about it, for what reason I'm not sure.
Thanks

If it was in January she made the offer and hasn't thought to actually do it yet, that's quite a while to have left it I don't think it would be unreasonable to do the card and flowers, considering your "cooling off period" plus the length of time since your own birthday

I'd just send a card

You could write in it lets meet up for a birthday Meal soon

Yes just a card and a bunch of flowers would be fine.

Just send her a card and say let's have a joint birthday meal/ drink together soon.

Card and flowers or fizz. Card saying 'hope we can get together soon'

Yes great idea of suggesting meeting for a joint birthday meal! Then you're both on even ground and can just split the bill when you go out.

Card and flowers/bottle of something will be fine. I wouldn't mention any meal, she's clearly not up for it.

If you want a shot at getting your friendship back then, as you forgot to arrange your birthday meal, suggest going out together as a joint treat? Would also be good to show your kids that friends can make up.

My DH says don't change what I do and get her a gift as it may make her think or remember - two wrongs don't make a right- thing.
I like the idea of suggesting a joint meal and have thought of writing that on a card however I don't want to cause friction if there was a reason why she hasn't suggested it again.

Just do it in good faith & put the ball in her court - if it's suggested in the card she won't be put on the spot and can think about it. At least then you tried.

I wouldn't get her a gift. That's just rewarding childish behaviour.

Joint meal is the way to go, but with just a card.