Arrived in the UK from Australia on Friday, - 7 hours time difference. DD is 22 months old.
She is sleeping in a portacot in a little bedroom next to my PIL which is on the other side of the house to me and DH. PIL obviously don't get to see DD very often and absolutely dote on her and like to spoil her which I completely understand.
At home she sleeps 12 hours through, 7pm til 7am, and I of course wasn't expecting her to do this straight off the bat here but feel we should be helping her to settle back into a good sleep routine and gradually getting her to adjust to the new timezone.
The problem is, every night since we arrived (so 3 nights so far), she has gone to bed at 7-7.30 as normal and then woken up at precisely 3.30am. PIL have gone into her room, brought her into their bed and she has played with them for about half an hour then fallen asleep in between them until about 6.30.
I had no problem with this on night one but it's now night 3 and they have done the same thing. I woke up when she cried and she literally cried for about 5 seconds. At home I would not have entered the room unless she was really distressed or she had been crying for about 5 mins. She also never comes in our bed at home, we go in and settle her in her own bed. She was an appalling sleeper as a baby so we had to put a lot of work into getting her into a good routine. They have also given her milk at 4am and I've told them please not to do this as she never has milk in the night now and her body will think it's daytime. I feel like they think iabu to interfere because it's their time with their grandchild.
So, anyone got any experience of transitioning a baby/ toddler to a new timezone? And aibu to think that the PIL approach might be not be helping here? We are off to visit another family member in a week's time, I'm worried we're going to have hell up getting her to stay in her own bed the rest of the trip at this rate.