Anniversary card

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DH and I celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary recently. We happened to be away for the occasion and so I had got a card all ready to take with me. My DH on the other hand didn't get me a card with the excuse "I didn't think we were doing cards this year as we are away". I feel really hurt. I know its just a card but I cant help feeling very upset about it. AIBU to be upset about this? Am I being over sensitive?

Yes YABU. It's just a card. You are away for the weekend celebrating. We've never given each other cards and celebrating 18 years.

Did he acknowledge it in any other way? I.e. Wake up on the morning and say happy anniversary? Or suggest a meal out or something?

Yanbu to be upset that he didn't mark the occasion with a card. However you did go away together for your anniversary.
Maybe gently tell him that cards are important to you because ....

I should have explained. We were away for the week on a family holiday with inlaws which happened to fall over our anniversary, it wasn't a weekend away to celebrate our anniversary.
He did say happy anniversary in the morning yes so im confident he didnt forget, but didn't suggest a meal or anything.

YABU.

YANBU, I would be pissed off too. You need to tell DH though that you were hurt, so he knows for next time.

Yanbu. My husband never gets me cards either and I have asked him to. So for the last card exchanging occasion he did get me a card... but he didn't write anything in it. If he neglects to get me a card for the next one then I'm not going to bother again tbh.

Fortunately we both forgot on our second anniversary so we got the year before's out of the drawer and have been using them ever since, with a new message.

If you knew you were going to be away on your anniversary, why didn't you both plan to do something like a special meal out? Or agree to do something when you got home? It isn't like your H forgot the day. And I agree, you need to say to your H why getting a card matters to you.

Had you discussed with him how you were going to celebrate before you went away? How would he know that you wanted to do something? I know my husband and I were on holiday with others we'd not bother doing anything special as we're away from home, maybe he felt the same and assumed you did if you hadn't mentioned anything.

Yabu ffs. It's only a card. Who gives a shit? Is he a good, supportive loving husband? Because that's all that matters. Not a flipping card!

We had discussed not going out whilst away yes, as we have an 11 month old and were away with family, so im not too bothered about the not going out. I suppose maybe thats why I felt he could have at least got a card.

Yanbu. Just ale sure he understands these things matter to you.

My friend text me from a weekend away with her husband celebrating their anniversary to ask me if I would do her a favour and buy a card and drop it at their house as she'd forgotten. I think some people just don't place a big importance on cards; it's not deliberately thoughtless.

We got married on my birthday - no chance of forgetting and no way would dh anyway. .

We have a particularly hectic life and it's our chance for some 'us' time. Always go away to celebrate anniversary /date we met and milk it!! Rest of the year is devoted to mad life!!

The fact you were away is an entirely plausible excuse given you were away. As he spontaneously wished you happy anniversary he clearly hadn't forgotten the importance of the date itself.

My husband has our wedding date inscribed inside his wedding ring, but hasn't once in 18 years done anything more remarkable than at some point within 48 hours either side muse aloud in the manner of a prisoner in a remote and draughty prison that he can't believe another year has gone by.

Sorry, suffering insomnia and virus and wrote way too many givens in my first sentence.