Fussy DH and food!!

[Littlemissamy]

Posting on here for traffic really.
So my DH is the fussiest person around when it comes to food. He will eat the following - burgers, sausages, frozen chicken chargrills but NOT roast chicken as its "too dry", pizza, kebab, mashed potato and chips but no other variation of potato. And that's pretty much it.
No veg, no roast dinners, nothing remotely fancy exciting. And it's killing me.
My DS (3) eats really well and I'm more than a little worried he's going to pick up on this fussy nonsense.
I need some help, how can I get him to have a better diet? He's quite overweight and seems to think an hour of excercise once a week will help him lose weight, he's openly ashamed of his weight. I've told him if he wants to shift some pounds then he needs to address his diet. It makes no difference to me if he doesn't lose weight.
I'm getting increasingly frustrated by us either eating separate meals or crap meals together.
I've tried sneaking some veg into his food but then he accuses me of treating him like a child. Which is fair, but I'm at a loss of how to help him expand his very limited list of acceptable foods. I don't want to be stuck in a life of fatty crap food, I don't want DS growing up and thinking this diet is acceptable, because it's not. Not in terms of health and not socially either. We don't go for meals with friends because he won't eat anything off the menu.
I don't really know what I'm asking you all, maybe I just needed to vent this out. I'm fed up of my only healthy meal being chicken. I hate cooking separate meals. I feel it's setting a precedent for DS to say "I don't want this, I want something else" and him expecting me to do it. I don't want him to think it's ok to eat pizza every day.
Someone please help me with half decent meals, I'm so bored of the same few dinners!
And I know some will say just let him fend for himself, I'd let that be the case if it wasn't for the fact that it ends up with twice the washing up for 2 different meals, it's too stressful timing everything to be done together, and it's important to me that we all sit and eat together. Is the unreasonable in itself?

Even my fussy DD is more adventurous with food than your DH. She knows that if she dont like it, she'll never have to eat it again.

I have the same as a PP in that I have the opposite problem in that my DP prefers to eat super healthy stuff. The difference is, if he's being fussy wanting healthier options he takes responsibility and makes it himself and sometimes will still make me what I fancy because he's thoughtful. Get your DH cooking his own food OP, stop using your son as an excuse to control him.

Sorry but that's ridiculous. He's a grown man ffs!! Do you do the majority of the cooking? If so he eats what you cook or he cooks his own dinner, end of story.

He's not a toddler!! Stop pandering to him.

Sorry I am just genuinely agog there are women trying to sneak vegetables into their husbands. Jesus.

You don't hear about fussy people only eating salad and cruciferous vegetables.

Yes you do, though its often given a label like clean eating or orthorexia.

Do you cook every meal? I would just cook what I wanted to OP...I honestly would. His diet sounds appalling and it's going to affect your child.

Have you cooked him chicken? Surely then he will see it's not ALWAYS dry?

My DH is an incredibly fussy eater too.

He's a vegetarian who doesn't eat vegetables. (Jacket potato with cheese and beans with a side of chips is about his speed).

We now have 3 kids and they are incredibly fussy too (no two in the same way, that would be too simple!!).

In many ways our kids being fussy has made DH worse because he claims it's genetic and he can't help it.

It is gradually driving me crazy. I told him long ago, way before kids that the vegetarianism I could support and everyone has a few things that they really don't like. But outside of that. The first time a child utters the words "but daddy doesn't eat it", daddy will have to man up and try to eat it, with a smile on his face and no grimacing.

In fairness to him he did eat a tiny broccoli floret and half a dozen green beans with his tea tonight and there was no whinging. If we'd been eating after the kids were in bed there's no way he'd've eaten them.

DH is slim and in no way looks like he lives on a diet of carbs and cheese (which he does) and I'm the one with health problems! Whenever he takes over food prep (which he's done recently because I've been poorly) I just end up piling on the pounds.

I have no useful advice. I'd love to see a way out of this fussy eating because it's ruling so much of my life.

I do have sympathy for you and I do feel your pain!

I'm sneaking veg in as I like them and want them. For instance beef stew and he "doesn't like" swede but I will cut it small and put it in anyway.
Hopefully you will get some ideas or advice rather than lots of harsh comments OP.

Eugh... Men like this are so unattractive. Man up and try some sodding veg. What a baby. I couldn't cope with this sort of man-child. I'm not a fussy eater at all, but Im not a fan of a few things, but if my son offers them for me to try, do I try it, of course I bloody do because I'm a grown up and trying to teach my son healthy eating habits.

WSS^
I honestly don't think I would have married someone who eats like a fussy toddler.
Tell him what you are cooking for you and DS and if he doesn't want that he can sort himself out.