To be worried about DS despite what he says?

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Conversation between Ds and I!

"Mum have you ever been drunk?"

"Yes, more than I care to remember"

"Did you like it?"

"Mostly - well at least until the hangover the next day"

"That's why I'm never drinking - it just seems such a silly thing to do"

"Ok DS"

Sorry pressed send too soon!

DS is only 12 and has ASD.
I haven't had a drink in 5 years.

Whatever he says I'd be bloody stupid to think I'm never going to have a semi conscious vomiting teen ring me to rescue him at some point aren't I?

He's just lulling you into a false sense of security like my DS who claims that all the girls he knows are orange and doesn't want to ever go near them.

I was never going to smoke when I was about 12 or 13.
That went well...

Things I was nevet hoing to do at 12: drink to excess, drugs, have sex.

I was pretty much right about one of those.

My dsd has never got drunk. She has asd too, she just felt what's the point in drinking. She's now in her 20's and drinks at say christmas, (never enough to feel drunk though) etc but I don't think she really drinks very often at home.

Of course that's just my child so not exactly evidence of anything.

I wouldn't be worried, he's only 12 he has a lot of growing up to do. He will make some bad decisions as we all do but I'm sure he will handle them fine because he will have been raised by you to cope as his world changes.

He carried on after this saying he was going to be the driver and make sure all his friends got home safely!

I just love his black and white way of seeing things - why drink when it makes you feel like shite?

And oh yes to the things we were NEVER going to do! It's like the reverse of the parenting and the list of things we all swore bling we WOULD do!

I have seen dd2 drunk once or twice and all over 18 she honestly wasn't interested in drinking as a younger teen. Your son makes a valid point though you drink something that makes you ill how stupid is that

My dd,nearly 14 also doesn't see why peeps need to drink.We all like a drink in our family but not to the point of falling over drunk.All I can say is long may it last as I know that once she gets older and peer pressure influences her things will change.

As he has ASD he may stick to that. They often dont care about peer pressure and when they make up their mind they stick to it. You' d never know. You may be saved a lot of angst.

It would be lovely to think I'll avoid that angst. We've had enough of that over the past 3 years to last a lifetime!

In fact 6 months ago he wouldn't have even initiated such a conversation.

My ds has ASD he's 24. He use to say the same, he will drink an occasional alcoholic drink now but has never even been tipsy. ASD youngsters often do not react to peer pressure like NT's, so he may be right. At different times my ds has also had plans to be a vet, a politian (so he can save the world) and a policeman (so he can punish all the bad people). He currently plans to buy some unused land near us and turn it into Thomasland. I just nod and smile, who am I spoil his dreams.

Cheese that sounds familiar! My ds has also wanted to be a policeman (with a gun!) to kill off all the bad people and open a fair near us where apparently I'll be allowed to work!

I do hope his plans for the future aren't entirely set in stone - he's also informed me he's never moving out

Hate to tell you OP but i said exactly the same thing myself.

And I stuck to it until I was mid 20's, and even the I've only been drunk about 3 or 4 times (now in mid life).

I drink all the time because I enjoy it, but I don't get drunk. Can't see the point and never could! So he might just stick to it if he honestly thinks it.

You know, it just might be that you don't have to worry. The only time I ever drink was when I was in my early 20s and trying to fit in with everybody else. But I had my first beer when I was 24, And even when I did have it, I had one glass. I never liked the taste of it. Even with other things, I just couldn't handle alcohol. So I would have half a glass, or one glass. I have never vomited due to drinking too much, because I never overdid it. Plus I was always aware that I needed to get myself home in one piece and I have to pay a lot of attention when I am walking due to my disability. Especially with traffic in southeast Asia. You take your attention off the road for one minute, and you can have an accident.

Now? I am a lot happier in my own skin and I'm the one ordering a coffee while everybody else orders alcoholic drinks. I haven't drank for nine years. It was never something that I really enjoy doing.

Ds1 also doesn't see the point of drinking. Seems to have a very dim view of being drunk.

There is hope yet then that ds may stick to his word?

Dd1 is 16yo. She doesn't mind a glass of white wine. Other than that she'd agree with your ds.

I'm not asd, 24 and have never drunk to excess :) (eaten too much chocolate to excess many times...)

I've never been drunk.

Just don't see the point in it.......I'm also a control freak, not being in full control of myself isn't my idea of a good time.