To not be as excited about​ my pregnancy

[StumpyScot92]

Ok that makes me sound horrible. I am very excited about becoming a mum (it wasn't planned but after a few days of panicked shock I realised it wasn't a bad thing, I'm due early December) but for now I just want to be ME. Not 'stumpy the incubator' who's entire life revolves around pregnancy.

I feel like every waking moment everyoneis telling me not to do stuff, take it easy, you shouldn't be doing that etc etc. And it's not like I'm off trying to hike Kilimanjaro or something I mean walking around the shops for a few hours today. Or carrying a bag of shopping that weighs more than a pound of fucking sugar. I am pregnant, not ill. Today I (jokingly) threatened to leave my partner's parents in the city (I drove us) because while looking at prams they kept constant telling me I shouldn't be lifting that! That being the very lightweight carry cots that came with the prams etc.

I just feel like everyone elses life now revolves around the future baby whereas to me I feel like it's still so far away I should be able to have a normal life and conversations about things that aren't always baby and pregnancy related. Everyone is constantly fussing over me to an extreme degree because of it and it's making me feel so alone because I feel like I'm no longer me. Currently crying in a bath, please tell me this is just hormones and that it will go away and that I can still do normal things and have a normalish life for the next few months.

Pregnancy is a time of huge change and the hormones are a bugger too. I don't know if this makes you feel better but I'm due same time as you, this is my 4th child and so far only dh knows as everyone will think I'm barmy. As a result, I'm lugging small children in and put of cars, hauling shopping bags around and generally having to pretend that I don't feel nauseous and exhausted all the time.

I would swap with you but do understand why you don't want to be needlessly mollycoddled. Tell them to back off (but nicely if the hormones will allow!).

Thanks, I do try to say to people but they tend to just laugh a bit then five minutes later tell me to stop doing something else I'm perfectly capable of! It just irritates me, possibly more than it should but I just want to talk about non baby things and be allowed to carry on with my life for a little longer.

Hopefully your nausea passes soon to help at least a little and your pregnancy is a relatively easy one! [Flowers]

I felt/feel exactly the same. I find it annoying that people suddenly think they have a right to touch you and tell you what to when you're pregnant! Also when people instantly look at your belly rather than your face when they say hi. I'm 6 months and can't wait until my body is mine again!

A wonderful piece of advice I learned here:
Smile, Nod, Ignore.

They are excited for you and trying to be kind/helpful even if it's as annoying as hell

Unfortunately once pregnant people feel they have the right to advise you on every tiny detail of your life. It gets worse once the baby arrives! Advice on how to feed/burp/wean/bath/discipline...

You cannot control what they do and say, only your reaction to it. So smile, nod, say "aw it's so sweet for you to be concerned" and then pick the carrycot up anyway. They'll take the hint, eventually!

Truly, this will not stop so you must put your big girl pants on and realise only you can stop it bothering you.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

They are just trying to be a part of things, it's great they feel so protective.

It could be the other way, I experienced a total lack of empathy and understanding from my in laws, I think they forgot I was pregnant sometimes especially when smoking whilst I was sat choking in the back of the car!

Enjoy this time, it won't last forever. Moms become invisible straight after giving birth you know.

Congratulations

Congratulations

I felt the same. I was delighted to be having a child but pregnancy is so all consuming for SO LONG.

The best thing to do is grit your teeth at the annoying comments. Easier said than done, but it just isn't worth the hassle.

DD is currently sat in her bouncer cooing away at a plastic toy bird, and I can confirm that it is definitely worth it

I can really sympathise with you. Ive always been massively independent-I would rather cut off my right arm than ask for help- and realising that I am a bit more vulnerable physically and not as independent was one of the hardest things for me.

As PP have said, they mean well and thats what you need to remind yourself (even if you do just ignore them which I did).

Now Im closer to the end though and everything feels like a massive effort I quite like stepping back and letting other people lift things!

I felt the same, in the end I thought if I can't beat them, join them kind of thing. Family soon regretted it when I refused to do the most mundane tasks like making myself a drink ect. I know it's hard OP but enjoy having people rally around after you, of course you can still do whatever you feel like doing now, you can still do whatever you like after this baby is born too so don't feel like you have to cramp your last time being 'you' into the next 6 months, sure its a little bit more difficult when baby is born but you will still be you.
It always got on my nerves when people said to me stuff like 'get all your sleep in while you can' and 'your life is gonna change forever' in a negative way, I am still me and my life style hasnt really changed, and if it has then I really dont mind iyswim, sorry im rambling.