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Sick to death of DH causing arguments

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ALittleBiPolarSunshine · 20/05/2017 20:58

He's been like it for about a week. For example the kids do something trivial and he goes in a mood - I point out that it's trivial so he'll say "yes but last Thursday so and so happened and two years ago that other thing happened ... and it's nothing to do with the current event but he brings all these historical pieces of evidence together to create an argument.

Tonight we were watching a film. My phone was about to die so I put it on charge and asked to borrow his phone (we always use each other' phones) and he starts kicking off saying I've drained my phone and now I want to drain his, it's a loss take, what am I doing? He needs his phone back to take a photo of the dog etc etc etc 😳

Anyway in the film we were watching I realised the main character looked like a bloke I work with. I told DH "he looks like Mike from work" so he starts going off on one saying "oh? Who's mike? Not heard that one before (untrue), mike and his harem of women eh? Mike fan club ... " Confused. Anyway I was on Facebook at the time so pulled up a picture of Mike (from a mates photo, I'm not actually friends with him) and show DH "here, don't you think he looks like the guy off the film?" So he immediately gets all arsey, moves my feet away from him and starts kicking off about "fancying mike" and looking up random blokes on his phone etc etc!!! This is NOT normal behaviour for him.

He got a shave on Friday which is really weird, he normally likes his stubble as long as possible over the weekend. Sex has has completely died also.

AIBU to wonder what the fuck is up with him or just being paranoid??

OP posts:
KatieHaslam22 · 21/05/2017 09:39

Maybe something happened on his night out that he is feeling guilty about? Or maybe he is stressed, I have just been signed off work with stress and have to keep apologising to my poor other half for my behaviour!

Franticallypaddling · 21/05/2017 09:59

It could be stress or depression. My DP was similar and it started out of nowhere. Life was very difficult for a while unfortunately be things are about back to normal now.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 21/05/2017 10:05

We mners are always here for support but I feel fairly confident you won't receive much if you are going to kill dh and eat him op.

Just ltb as is our motto. . .

LedaP · 21/05/2017 10:32

It sounds like either he is cheating or he thinks you are. Maybe just insecure.

I know mners often say people who are paranoid about their other half cheating are usually cheating themseleves. But its not true. There are plenty of people who worry their partner is cheating but arent cheating.

ohfourfoxache · 21/05/2017 10:33

He sounds very guilty about something. Be on your guard op

bungle99 · 21/05/2017 11:02

OP it sounds like something may have happened the other night he was out with mates or there's something (flirting) going on at work whereby he wants to do something. I don't think you are being paranoid. He is being an arse though and sounds like he's projecting.

bungle99 · 21/05/2017 11:04

Also agree that he may be just feeling insecure and think you are cheating. Maybe a possibility. Would have a chat about his behaviour and lack of sex life and see what he says

Kokusai · 21/05/2017 11:40

Sounds like he is shagging someone else and making your life difficult so you leave him and he can be the injured party

iamavodkadrinker · 21/05/2017 12:10

He's fucked somebody else.

burdog · 21/05/2017 12:56

I'd say stress or depression OP. It is not ok or reasonable for him to take it out on you, though.

Shoxfordian · 21/05/2017 13:41

He's acting like an idiot
Would you stay if this carried on for 5 years

LedaP · 21/05/2017 14:53

To be fair if a woman posted that her dh had started talking about a random woman at work, looking like and actress and then looked them up on facebook etc.....people would be calling it 'mentionitis' and claiming he fancied the woman.

The Op has also been through his phone. Again if a woman posted that her dh went through her phone it would be controlling

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