Would appreciate some MN advice on this one!
Going for a weekend away with a group of friends who I share a hobby with - getting an AirBnb place. Very relaxed, everyone taking turns cooking etc. We've been emailing about our food list, with everyone agreeing to just split the cost between us - no-one has any allergies/ dietary requirements, so we'll more or less be eating the same thing.
Except one person has just asked that we add champagne to the list. I am teetotal (and have just been made redundant so not feeling super-flush).
When I've gone on weekends away with other groups of friends in the past we've all split the food bill then separately brought drinks of choice. Obviously sharing does go on, but by and large I get to drink the non-alcoholic drinks I've bought, and everyone else gets to drink the beer/ wine/ champbers they prefer.
This is the first time I've gone away with this particular group of hobby friends, so I'd naively assumed we'd do a similar thing. I'm not sure if the person who asked is fully aware that I'm teetotal - a few of them do though because they've bought me drinks (and vice versa) in the past.
Can I ask your advice on how to suggest that we either bring our own drinks or ask that I don't have to contribute to the alcohol buying and that I'll bring my own non-alcoholic drinks? Do I try to formulate a light-hearted group email or wait until the weekend and raise it with whoever's doing the calculations then? This is a really lovely group of people but from lurking on MN for years I'm really worried about being seen as cheap. Maybe I am being cheap, but I don't really think it's fair to pay for bottles of wine and champagne that I'm not going to touch!
Gosh, sorry that was long. Didn't want to dripfeed (although undoubtedly I'll have forgotten some crucial bit of info).