Had a family get together (dhs side) and was chatting to his aunt about Dd who is 4.5. I mentioned the activities she does on a Saturday - 1 swimming lesson in the morning for 40mins, and 1 hour in the afternoon of Mandarin tuition- the latter is because we lived in China until recently and i want Dd to keep up the skills she has already learnt there. She loves both activities.
I am also starting to teach her to read as she is desperate to do so,, and as she is an older one school wise (she will be nearly 5 when she starts in Sept) she is ready for a bit of input- her idea to try reading.
Dhs aunt then spent 15 minutes lecturing me on how I shouldn't be such a pushy mum, I will damage her, she's seen so many children with mental health problems (she's a gp) that have been subject to pushy parents and can't keep up to their aspirations.
I was a bit taken aback and a bit upset as I only take her to activities she enjoys. This is normal at her age right? Of course I am aspirational for her future as she's reasonably bright and interested, and I hope she will do well but I don't think I'm being pushy by encouraging her in what she wants to do? Aibu?