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Camping or DD's night out

15 replies

ILoveAGoodBrusselSprout · 20/05/2017 11:59

This is really not a massive issue but I wonder what the consensus would be.

DD, 16, has an evening out arranged. It's on the calendar and has been for a number of weeks.

We have just found that we can go away camping that night. The weather will be fab (apparently) and it'll be fun for all of the family.

WIBU to take everyone camping and have her miss this pre-arranged evening? She'll be furious if we do (and if the weather's rubbish I'll never live it down)

OP posts:
Ditsy1980 · 20/05/2017 12:01

She's 16. Let her have her night out. Check out a friend she can stay with.

Bonesy1 · 20/05/2017 12:02

But it won't be fun for all the family will it, as your 16 year old will be sacrificing a pre planned activity. We have a 'first on the calendar' rule

kmc1111 · 20/05/2017 12:02

I definitely wouldn't make her cancel plans because something better (for you) came up.

At 16 can she not just stay at home? Or did she need you to take her wherever she's going?

RedScissors · 20/05/2017 12:04

That would be really unfair.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 20/05/2017 12:04

Your trip will be ruined by a stroppy teenager if you make her go camping. .
And if she booked the night first then you change the rules you are setting yourself up for a difficult future!!

KC225 · 20/05/2017 12:06

She stays with a friend and you go camping

budgiegirl · 20/05/2017 12:08

Go camping without her, she's 16. If you can trust her to stay at home on her own, then do that, or arrange for her to stay with a friend.

BertrandRussell · 20/05/2017 12:10

Go camping without her. Or at least, give her the choice.

RataSum · 20/05/2017 12:14

Don't force her to come with you, that seems unfair when she's already made these plans first.

Original poster
ILoveAGoodBrusselSprout · 20/05/2017 12:14

Thanks all.

Yes, it would be unfair to change the goalposts and yes, she'd be stroppy all weekend.

That was a moment of madness to consider changing her plans

OP posts:
kimlo · 20/05/2017 12:16

It wont be fun for all the family if you force her to go.

You go, let her stay at home and go to the night out she has been looking forward to.

NorthumbrianGirl · 20/05/2017 12:21

You're doung the right thing, changing her plans would be unfair.

BewtySkoolDropowt · 20/05/2017 12:24

She's 16. Old enough to get married here without parental consent. (no, I'm not in England).

You can go camping, she can stay home for one night alone.

Kokusai · 20/05/2017 12:56

Can't she stay home or go to a friends?

Dishwashersaurous · 20/05/2017 13:31

Surely she can just stay at home, then everyone gets to do the fun thing which they want to do

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