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anyone buying own mothers day present

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majormug · 16/03/2007 00:40

anyone else having to do this... though about taking dd into shop with £10 and getting shop keeper to choose one with her for me in secret...... she will be upset if she hasnt got anything to give me.

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mammaduck · 16/03/2007 16:26

Mumblechum - but do you help your los make Father's Day cards? If so, then he should help them make you Mother's Day cards.

That's what i think, anyway. Not that it'll happen to me in RL....

DS made me a card in playgroup - I've left it on the table and said to DH

"DS made this but he hasn't written anything in it yet, perhaps you could help him..."

DS is 18 months but will scribble if you put crayons and item you wish to be scribbled on in front of him. It's not rocket science, but...

I have also helped DS fingerpaint 4 cards for his 2 grandmothers and 2 godmothers. I also bought my own mum a card and organised a bouquet, and bought DH a card to send to his own mother.

Nuff said.

NoodleStroodle · 19/03/2007 19:48

I am reeling from Mothers Day yesterday but am not sure how upset I should be. DH knew what the day was because we had invited his mother and mine to Mothers Day tea. Nothing on Sunday - no cards, no gifts - homemade or otherwise - not even Happy Mothers Day from DS (11) or DD (9). I had reminded DH to buy a card for his mother and picked out a gift for her. His mumbled excuse was that he was too busy...(watching the rugby, reading the papers...just to remind the kids to wish me a Happy Mothers Day?!). Or does this reflect on me as a mother? Am I that awful that one day out of 365 my family can't show their appreciation of me? I am not angry - just really really sad.

steinermum · 19/03/2007 20:06

Really understandable that you feel like that.
I've heard lots of men argue that they don't get involved because the wife/partner is not THEIR mother, but I agree he could have nudged the children to mark the day. Your children are definitely old enough for you to tell them you felt hurt by their lack of attentiveness yesterday. I'd be worried if you DH egnored you at birthday/Christmas - what happens then?

sunnysideup · 19/03/2007 20:08

noodle, I can see why you're sad, but I think sometimes these special days can be really unhelpful....there must have been other times over the years when your kids have said the most amazing, loving things, or given you a huge hug, or just made you feel loved. These times are more important than them feeling they HAVE to show appreciation on a certain day.

That thought makes me want to cringe, I would actually RATHER that ds didn't mention mother's day - honest! I don't ever want him to feel obligated to mark the day, I much prefer the genuine appreciation that comes naturally, and I don't care what day that comes on.

I try to ignore mother's day completely.

Of course it's a different kettle of fish if you NEVER get loving hugs or never feel appreicated in even the smallest way.....

but mother's day still makes me cringe!

NoodleStroodle · 19/03/2007 20:19

Thanks for support. Birthdays and Christmas are usually OK - although a couple of disasters when he has bought what he would like (electronic gadgets!) rather than what I would like. But I suppose Sunnysideup is right - it is only a day and the hugs and love do come from children at other times. Bizarrley it was my MIL who turned up with a pot of flowers for me - and she is usually the one driving me mad! Kids have been beautifully behaved today and DD came home with an Easter card from school which she said was only for me because I had not had a card yesterday.

Sholi · 28/02/2009 13:16

anyone got any ideas fo non naff mothers day prsents for my mum and MIL who are in 60s and 80s?
Done photos of my 2 boys to death! and flowers are so expensive!

twinsetandpearls · 28/02/2009 13:24

It is my birthday soon as well, have been to the shop I suspect they will be going to and left instructions regarding the direction of dd and dp.

insertwittynicknameHERE · 28/02/2009 13:40

I will not be getting anything, DD will be 16mo and this lo isn't even born yet. DH only has enough money left this month to get his mum a card and present.

But I don't mind....really I don't

DD and I will be making my mum and Nana's a mothers day card each and getting some daffodils off the flower stall on the market for them all.

Fairynufff · 28/02/2009 14:05

trillium - can I adopt your mum's advice on cards? That's brilliant.

ChocFudgeCake · 03/03/2009 00:03

I like the idea, thank you
DH might forget, so I better have a back up. If he really forgot he would be sorry, so I am only doing this for his sake
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The children will make cards in school.
That's sorted then.

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