AIBU not to tell STBEXH kids meeting new boyfriend tonight

[Hotwaterbottle1]

Really don't know what's best.

ExH & I split last April officially although had been coming for a long time prior. We have been sharing a home though But living separately until March until he moved out (for financial reasons).

I met bf last Sept & this will be him just meeting kids (13 &16). He met gf in Dec & kids met her in Feb. I thought that too soon but but my tongue. I've waited as wanted to do it right for me.

ExH is on hols for 2 weeks with gf (she lives abroad).

AIBU not to tell him until he comes back? Or drop him a quick message. He did not want us to split & before I knew about gf was still asking to try so not sure how serious he is or if it's rebound. Basically don't want to put a dampener on his holiday!

I would extend him the same courtesy that he did to you when they met his gf. If he told you before, tell him before. If he didn't, I wouldn't bother.

His holiday is irrelevant. If he told you before but you don't tell him just because he is on holiday, he will still feel you have shown him a lack of respect.

I would not tell him. I don't see why he needs to know. You have been quite responsible in waiting the length of time you have and your kids are old enough to decide if they are keen to meet your partner.

Don't dance around this persons feelings as tbh you are not together and yous both should have no investment in each other's new relationships unless they pose a risk of harm to your kids.