To use the disabled loo when I'm with my son?

[RestingBitch]

My sons 9 months and obviously still in his pushchair. The majority of the time it's just me and him when I go into town/visit places. When I need the loo I get an attack of conscious, I normally use the disabled loo so I can bring him in with me.
Can't use a regular loo as I can't get him in the cubicle in his chair. Don't want to take him out of his pushchair and plonk him on the floor as the floors are manky and he will eat whatever is on the floor. He'll also probably try and crawl under the gap and interrupt someone else. Don't really like the idea of leaving him in his pushchair whilst I nip in the cubicle, so providing there isn't someone waiting for the disabled loos, AIBU to use them? I'm usually in and out and so far I've never encountered anyone waiting for one, or the impatient rattle of the door. If I am being unreasonable, short of pissing myself what's the options?

Not a troll, and don't work for any newspapers :).

[Woobeedoo]

The local shopping centres close to me had the smallest toilet cubicles and the disabled toilets had those special radar keys to open the doors.

In the end I would go into the cubicle furthest from the door - it was about the 15th in the row, faaaar at the end, pull the pram/ pushchair in after me and then pull the hood up to full height. Once I was sat on the toilet I couldn't really be seen. I did once have a woman give me a face as she decided to peek over the hood of the pram at me (not my finest moment!) and I recall telling her "Sorry, but what else can I do?!". She had the grace to look a little ashamed after that.

[Sirzy]

I hate the "it's not illegal" argument.

Something doesn't have to be illegal for it to be morally wrong.

[Iloverichtea]

Can't you just take your baby out of the pushchair, leave the pushchair outside he cubicle and sit him on your knee while you have a wee? That's what I do with 8mo DS

Wipe, pull pants and trousers up with one hand, pop baby back in buggy when outside cubicle again and wash hands.

[zeeboo]

Yes. I have wet myself because of people like you.

[PurpleDaisies]

And just leave the child there? And if he/she is crying? I won't leave my child outside there and just assume he's safe.

If they're crying, they just cry for a minute until you're done.

[ItsNeverSunnyInWales]

YANBU to use the accessible toilet. They are not just for disabled people, they just have disabled access, same as the lifts in shopping centres and train stations.

I'm disabled myself (and a parent with a double buggy) and wouldn't bat an eyelid if I saw someone using the accessible toilets who were obviously struggling.

[UserThenLotsOfNumbers]

In this situation I've used the end toilet cubicle with pushchair in front of the door (but with the door open) if that makes sense.

[hazeyjane]

I never left my dc's outside the toilet, where I couldn't see them (as dd1 would have screamed blue murder!). I also managed to avoid using the accessible toilet.

[riceuten]

Yasobu (you are sort of being unreasonable) - if someone disabled is being prevented from using it. But if that isn't the case, then no.

[AndNowItIsSeven]

Yabu go in a normal cubicle and place the pushchair in front of the door so you can see the wheels. Talk to your ds, with older dc you can ask them to sing.

[Sirzy]

But rice how do you know uour not preventing someone disabled using it?

[UserThenLotsOfNumbers]

I wonder where the op has gone 🙄

It's only been half hour since they posted lol

[ballerinabelle]

FFS use the toilet.

[ballerinabelle]

The disabled one that is

[Coughandsplutter]

Sometimes the changing facilities are in the disabled loos. I do this frequently as I have a 2.5 year old send a baby of 2 months. I make sure there's no one waiting and I'm as quick as possible. Some places have extra big loos so I use those and in the past, if disabled loo is busy, I just Park buggy outside toiket door and leave it open. I'm not easily embarrassed! I think it's dodgy ground and I do feel a bit naughty doing it but what's the alternative? Leave 2 kids outside the loo at the mercy of all sorts of weirdos. God forbid something happened to them, then you'd be slated for that too!!

[DailyMailReadersAreThick]

I don't see the harm in using a disabled toilet if it is free.

Are you disabled?

[mirime]

Can't you just take your baby out of the pushchair, leave the pushchair outside he cubicle and sit him on your knee while you have a wee?

Have you seen the size of some cubicles? Hardly enough room for one adult.

I just tried not to go out on my own when DS was small. I did change him in disabled toilets sometimes because he hated those flip down changing shelves and screamed the place down if a hand-dryer turned on anywhere near him. The combination of the two made things pretty impossible. I was always as quick as possible and often left the door unlocked so I'd know if someone else needed it.

[JuicyStrawberry]

When my DS who has an invisible disability needs to use the loo, I take him in to the disabled loo because he has every right to use it. Just because it isn't visible doesn't mean it's not there. People need to remember this when they challenge people coming out of a disabled loo who can walk.

Now I've got that off my chest...