Is this greedy?

[Anonymousey22]

Off the back of another thread...

1. Hen do weekend (not in city bride from)
2. Registry office wedding for families in home city
3. Wedding abroad involving at least two days off work (mid week)

Surely the whole point of the registry office wedding is that it is for UK people to attend instead of going abroad, otherwise why have it?

No one has to attend anything.

It is NOT a wedding abroad. The wedding took place in the town with the registrar. The abroad do is a party.

Have to be there my arse, not for £1k they don't!!

Buckingham "That's almost a month's wages for me at the moment."

yes, and even if I earned £50k (cba to work out take home as I never will earn that kind of money), I'd still think what I could do with £1k. It's crazy to spend that on attending a wedding.

OP might be talking about people in 6 figure territory but i saw another post on MN saying someone had been given a year's advance notice to save for attending a wedding abroad. Screw that!!

No one has to be there, but parents, siblings/close friends probably want to be & will try their hardest to do so.

What's happening after the registry office?

If there's some sort of reception/celebration then surely the abroad is just a party/holiday?

Greedy, no, tacky, naff, entitled and selfish, yes. Registry office and then 'wedding' abroad? That's about as tacky as it gets. You're married at the registry, then expect people to spend money attending some party abroad? Expecting family to spunk big bucks on your wedding (which isn't even for real, just some overblown party abroad) is beyond crass. So are these hen 'do's that again expect people to blow tons of money on you. And have to be there, really wish these families would tell these bride and groomzillas where to get off.

OP might be talking about people in 6 figure territory but i saw another post on MN saying someone had been given a year's advance notice to save for attending a wedding abroad. Screw that!!

That is just stupid - and so arrogant. I do save money, sometimes for stuff I'm going to need in a year's time! School shoes, trips to see elderly parents, a modest summer holiday ... your wedding is not part of my budget plan, unfortunately.

When a school mate of DS's got married abroad only the brides family and friends attended as not even the grooms parents could afford it. It went ahead anyway as the bride (and more significantly, her mother) refused to compromise on the brides dream wedding. More fool the groom for going ahead with it.

Usually these weddings are much cheaper for the bride and groom but come at a huge cost to the guests. Cant afford a big wedding? Dont have one.

It would be greedy if the bride and groom had got all the stags and hens to pay for their shares of the respective stag and hen parties, and all the guests going to the party abroad (which isn't actually the wedding as that's already happened at the registry office) had been charged sums adjusted to pay for the bride's and groom's shares as well. THAT would be greedy.

As it is, it's a series of invitations, none of which you have to accept if they don't suit your budget, family situation or annual leave situation. Invitations, not summonses.

OP what do you think?

Hen WEEKEND = unreasonable
TWO weddings = unreasonable

Ceremony do whatever you like whenever you like but it is thoroughly unreasonable to compel people to attend if they can't afford it. Go abroad mid-week but be prepared to have a near-empty ceremony and/or guests who are resentful of the inconvenience and money spent.

Remember years ago when weddings were a bit shit? They weren't perfect but they were a laugh.

I wouldn't use the word greedy - probably unrealistic or at worst selfish. A destination wedding should never be paired with a weekend hen. It's far too much to expect from people.