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AIBU?

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Would ibu to take poorly toddler away?

18 replies

suzu1982 · 19/05/2017 12:56

Ds, 2, has the tail end of tonsillitis. He has been on amoxicillin since Tuesday and although his tonsils have gone back to the normal size they still have white spots.
We had planned to visit dmil and dfil this weekend. They live about 2 hours away by bus (neither dh or I drive) and we see them quite often. I wouldn't normally have an issue with that, and although ds still has 2 days left of being on medicine, he is his usual happy and energetic self.
Our concern is that dmil is going through chemo. We're not sure if it's a good idea to bring an infection into her house.
Dmil thinks it will be ok, wwyd?

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Run4Fun · 19/05/2017 13:03

I wouldn't because your MIL's immunity system is compromised. It is not worth putting her at risk.

ChasedByBees · 19/05/2017 13:04

It's fine to take DS away, but absolutely not to someone immuno-compromised, sorry.

HildaOg · 19/05/2017 13:05

No way.

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 19/05/2017 13:06

No! Absolutely not ok mid chemo!

Northgate · 19/05/2017 13:07

Not with DMIL being on chemo, no. Not worth the risk of her catching it.

SmallBee · 19/05/2017 13:08

I was going to say fine until I read the last bit, 100% not worth the risk! Imagine how awful you'd feel if she caught something.

Spudlet · 19/05/2017 13:09

No, not with the chemo aspect. Poor old MiL came down with all sorts of infections during her last bout of chemo and it was miserable for her.

skyzumarubble · 19/05/2017 13:14

I absolutely not.

AndNowItIsSeven · 19/05/2017 13:16

If he is on antibiotics then your ds has bacterial tonsillitis which is not in any way contagious.

notanurse2017 · 19/05/2017 13:19

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usernotfound0000 · 19/05/2017 13:29

Nope. My DM went through chemo last year and I kept DD away with the any slight illness. DM did catch a cold that turned into a chest infection and resulted in her needing a blood transfusion, I would have felt terrible if I had caused it.

harderandharder2breathe · 19/05/2017 13:41

Not with her being on chemo I wouldn't

Normally if he's well in himself I'd say fine, but not with your mil's compromised immune system

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suzu1982 · 19/05/2017 14:01

Thanks everyone. I was thinking no, I guess I needed reassuring that I was making the right decision. Now I just have to break it to dmil that we're not coming. That will be fun

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Spudlet · 19/05/2017 14:41

I remember I had a long and helpful chat with my GP when I thought DS was getting chicken pox, about MiL and whether we could see her or not. Perhaps you could give your dr a call, that way you'd have your mind put at rest one way or another and you can blame the GP if your MiL isn't pleased!

Run4Fun · 19/05/2017 16:14

Skype/video call until your dc is fully recovered and at no risk of infecting Mil.

Run4Fun · 19/05/2017 16:14

Skype/video call until your dc is fully recovered and at no risk of infecting Mil.

Penfold007 · 19/05/2017 16:23

My DM is immunosuppressed and we have been told to keep the DC away when they have infections.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 19/05/2017 16:23

Bloody hell, no way! It's good you've decided not to. Tell her your GP said 'absolutely no way'. It'll ease the annoyance a bit. Toddlers really are little germ spreaders at the best of times, let alone when they're known to be unwell.

As others have said, lots of Skype time

If you have to be blunt, then do, her getting ill from DS could have life threatening consequences for her. It's. It to be messed with, no matter how much she wants to see him.

Poor thing though 🙁💐

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