AIBU to get her a gift? Or is it weird?

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Someone at my university (in pastoral support) really helped me this year. We met up weekly for the best part of 2 months and I've been a lot better since. University finishes tomorrow and I'd like to get her a card and a gift.

Would this be a bit cringey/cross a boundary or would you find it OK? I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. I was thinking a nice (not overly gushy) card and maybe some small chocolate gift? I would do flowers but she's a busy professional and they might be a bit of a hassle to sort out.

YANBU I think that sounds lovely. Maybe keep the card quite formal - along the lines of 'thanks for your support this year, it has been a huge help' & I don't see why not flowers? Everyone loves flowers surely?! Otherwise chocs sound nice too.

I think it's a nice thought. People like to be told they have helped and made your life a bit easier. I think a small gift and a thoughtful card is a lovely idea

I bet she would be really pleased, it is a nice thing to do.

I bet it'll make her day! You're overthinking on the flowers - either flowers or chocs would be great.

I think that would mean an awful lot to her. Lovely idea. Flowers or chocs are perfect - not too personal but will be enjoyed.

I sent my counsellor a card with a Dolly Parton quote on it when I was signed off. She loved it. YANBU.

I think that's nice - I work in a University and have got gifts rfom students.
I would only give it after she's "finished" with you though... just because my Uni is a bit funny about gifts and if they're over a certain value you have to declare them.

I just got a succulent from someone I was helping through work.

Totally happy because; she asked if it was OK, she was formal with it, she did it after our time together was done.

I keep every card I get. Sometimes us helper-types can feel a little like we make no difference at all!

That's really lovely, and I'm sure it would be appreciated

I would write a lovely card with some specific feedback. Not gushy, but helpful and sincere. Eg. Thank you for helping me feel more confident in speaking to blah blah, Thank you for helping me deal with this...situation. It's really made a difference. Your positive spin on things is something I will remember. Etc.

Lovely thought - even just a Thank You card would be more than enough.

I think that's a lovely idea OP go for it!

Absolutely, I'm sure she will be delighted to know what her support means to you

Do it, it will mean a lot.

A card and perhaps a small gift is not at all unusual in the pastoral setting I have contact with at the ending of the sessions.

It's a lovely idea, and I am sure will be well received

I was given a book token by a colleague whom I helped with her computer skills, it meant a lot to me that she'd appreciated the help.

Thanks everyone! I have bought a card and a yellow flowering plant in a pot.

Lovely thought, well done you x

sounds lovely :)