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No MOT on husbands car

67 replies

Dinnerisburnt · 16/05/2017 21:01

Advice please as I don't know what to do. My DH's car's MOT has expired, he booked it in today and it failed, the garage are fixing the faults later this week and then it will pass (hopefully). Tomorrow he is due to make an overnight trip and wants to take my car. Which will leave me with his. I'll have to do the school run etc in it as we live too far from school to walk and no public transport available. He said he will take whichever car I want him to, I feel like I'm being unreasonable asking him to take his. I maintain my car, I clean it, fill it up with fuel, get it fixed when broken, arrange the service, MOT blah blah blah. Would you let him take yours and risk driving his?

OP posts:
BMW6 · 16/05/2017 21:26

He should hire a car.

manueltowers · 16/05/2017 21:33

He can rent a car.

specialsubject · 16/05/2017 21:37

No. Driving a known unworthy car is illegal. Have a crash and your insurers will probably disown you. The risk is too big.

It doesn't need to be parked off road but it can only be driven to the garage and to a pre booked appointment. Oh, and early test wouldn't help as a fail still means all the above.

Taxi. Car owners need to be organised for when the car is out of action.

NoSquirrels · 16/05/2017 21:37

He can hire a car, get the train, rearrange the meeting.

Or take your car, organise the school run and/or pay for taxis, and grovel hugely and expensively on the understanding this is never to happen ever again.

Original poster
Dinnerisburnt · 16/05/2017 21:38

Tondelaya - yes it is standard behaviour. My car broke down earlier this year, I walked and relied on friends as he always seemed to need his car on the days I needed his. He did very little to help me other to than to pay the repair bill and do the school run. I'm sure he's doing the passive aggressive thing and making me feel like shit about it, he's oblivious and watching the football while I am worrying.

OP posts:
Starlight2345 · 16/05/2017 21:39

As you are a partnership you pull together.

The cheaper option surely is for him to take your car.Taxi back at school..See if garage can get job done tomorrow..Most garages I know do it same day unless a big job.

PersianCatLady · 16/05/2017 21:39

pick up will be much more difficult and it leaves me stuck at home during the day with no car
So because of that you are thinking of possibly endangering both your children and any body else who happens to cross your path tomorrow.

It isn't really worth it, is it??

Bunnyfuller · 16/05/2017 21:40

If you get caught the police will size the vehicle as your insurance will be invalid.

Bonesy1 · 16/05/2017 21:41

Hire car for him?

Original poster
Dinnerisburnt · 16/05/2017 21:44

He is hiring a car. Thanks for the help, I'm not great at saying no!

OP posts:
MumIsRunningAMarathon · 16/05/2017 21:44

neither one of you should be driving it!!! as you well know

so don't. theres no excuse

harderandharder2breathe · 16/05/2017 22:00

Neither of you should drive the car without an MOT

either he takes yours and you get lifts/taxis or leave him to sort out himself with lift/public transport/hire care

carefreeeee · 16/05/2017 22:14

He should sort it out as it's his problem....but is it really so bad to be without a car for just one day? Can't you walk or cycle or catch a bus to wherever you want to go? If you are within 3 miles of school or public transport your children can surely walk with you as a one off? It does worry me how people are so unable to get about without cars (apologies if you're disabled or live 20 miles from the nearest town or something!)

haveacupoftea · 16/05/2017 22:54

The police will not seize the vehicle, but you'll probably get a fine if you're caught. Tbh it's his problem and I'd leave him to it unless he volunteers the cash to pay for taxis while he has your car.

GabsAlot · 16/05/2017 23:36

ere no its illegal and if something is really wrong with the car why would u endanger your dc

BackforGood · 16/05/2017 23:45

Well, neither of you can drive it, so in our house, we'd be looking at whichever was the least disruptive / cheapest.......

Getting friends to help with lifts - either to school or to station
You getting taxi for dc to school
Him getting taxi to station
One of you hiring a car
Saying to his work he has car trouble and he can either postpone the trip or they will have to lend him a car or hire one for him (I'm presuming it's a work trip here)
You taking him to a station then having your car for the duration.

ijustwantfiveminutespeace · 17/05/2017 01:24

It does invalidate insurance. And fine and points if clocked. Don't drive it.

Pepperedpig · 17/05/2017 06:52

I'm glad he's seen sense and is hiring a car.

Bunnyfuller · 17/05/2017 08:12

I work for the police. We seine uninsured vehicles and no mot voids the insurance. Ignorance of the law is not a defence.

Bunnyfuller · 17/05/2017 08:13

Seine!! SEIZE!!

Kokusai · 17/05/2017 08:16

Glad he is hiring a car.

MrsBobDylan · 17/05/2017 08:18

To a pp who suggested op work out whichever is the least risk, suggesting local roads would be ok to drive in a car with noot therefore no insurance, wtaf? No accidents happen on local roads? It's ok for her to have an accident leaving the poor sod she hits with no recourse to compensation? The rule are there for very, very good reasons.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 17/05/2017 08:20

The police will not seize the vehicle

Yes they could.

Instasista · 17/05/2017 16:34

"Today 08:18 MrsBobDylan

To a pp who suggested op work out whichever is the least risk, suggesting local roads would be ok to drive in a car with noot therefore no insurance, wtaf? No accidents happen on local roads? It's ok for her to have an accident leaving the poor sod she hits with no recourse to compensation? The rule are there for very, very good reasons."

That was me. What's it got to do with accidents? I'm Referring to the risk of being caught and fined. Motorways have ANPR and you are therefore more likely to be pulled over.

MN is a weird old place. 2 pages of posters telling her it's illegal and her insurance is invalidated. Do you think she didn't know that?

Bunnyfuller · 17/05/2017 18:02

Ah. So suggesting ways in which she can break the law and run the 'least' Rick of being caught and prosecuted is absolutely fine and dandy?! You don't pick and choose which laws you adhere to, insta this attitude is what gets people killed on the roads. Driving offences are the ones that piss me off the most - people deciding they know better so ignore the law. Come and attend a few due care and attention/reckless driving RTCs before offering advice on how best to break the law.