AIBU to want to be the best I can be at what I do? I feel like I am not free to be all I could be because my hubby seems to be insecure. I have a good job & work hard but not at the expense of my family, hubby works in the same place, does well but I am at a higher level but that doesn't bother me but it apparently massively bothers him. Every time we argue he is just really spiteful about my position & accuses me of loving my job more than him, he says he is sick of "living in my shadow" - only he feels that way. I don't want to stop working hard but hate that I am penalised for it at home - anyone else have the same issue??