am i over reacting? DS, his GF and my hairbrush

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Last night we went out leaving DS in the shower getting ready to go out with his GF. She wasn't ready to go out and i presumed they would be going to her house later as they were going out with her family.
DS slept at GF's last night.
this morning i've washed my hair and my hairbrushes weren't in the drawer where i keep them. i've found them downstairs, one has been cleaned and washed. next to them is my make up mirror and GF's make up bag.
I'm not happy that
-one of them has been in my bedroom and taken my brushes from my drawer
-one of them has taken my make up mirror from my make up bag

• my brush wasn't clean enough for her to use so it has been washed (scrubbed)

-nothing has been returned -ds isn't replying to my text!

AIBU?

I think what happened on this occasion was entirely harmless- but it wouldn't hurt to have a quiet word with him about going through your stuff to lend to his GF for the future.

Using a mirror is one thing. What if she helps herself to make-up or perfume next time? Just let him know that your stuff is off-limits.

I thought we were in for a rather bizarre thread, as I read GF as grandfather.

As you were.

When I used to stay at my boyfriends house and hadnt been going out with him for long, if I forgot anything such as hair spray i would awkwardly mention it and he would always just go get it from his mam whether she was home or not. I always asked are you sure she won't mind ? I think you are being a bit unreasonable. She probably cleaned them after using to be polite and didnt want to go just put them away herself x

I'd say she washed it after. Very nice of her to do that actually.

I just couldn't get worked up over this.

i'd also suspect that she said "Oh I've forgotten my hairbrush" and your DS said "Mum won't mind if you borrow hers" and went and got it for her. And that she washed it after use.

Ypu are so not BU! My son's GF did this and I was furious! She didn't even have the courtesy to wash it out and return it afterwards, It made me shudder!

Of course YANBU. Some people wouldn't mind - which is great - but you're entitled to have a private space and personal things in your own home.

Glad you have had time to think and calm down a little. The GF may become your DIL one day - keep relations good!

Let this one go for your son's sake.

Maybe your son went in your room to get these? Trying to be overly nice to his girlfriend?

I assume it wasn't the girlfriend who did this. It would be weird.

I meant weird

I agree with a previous poster that hairbrushes and makeup are very personal items - I wouldn't want someone else borrowing these just like I wouldn't casually lend out my toothbrush or bra!
I would have a quiet calm word with both DS and GF to say they need to ask first before taking your things, especially anything in a drawer and not just sitting out.
It's the assumption that it would be ok, it's "just Mums stuff" that would get me too. But then I am a bit of a beauty addict and take good care of my good things. If someone casually used, say, an expensive liquid foundation but didn't put the lid back on so it dried out I think I'd go nuclear so best to have a word now before it becomes a habit and they get careless with your things. As PP says, what could be next?

Completely pointless post but for some reason I read the post title as "am i over reacting? DS, his GF and my dirtybush"

Wondered what the heck I was going to be reading. Although I did continue reading which probably says something about me. Think I need my eyes testing.

The GF may become your DIL one day - keep relations good!
good to bear in mind, thank you

Just imagining the response if someone posted that their mil had used their hairbrush while they were out.........

very true b&r

Omg yes the gf borrows a brush, next time she may nick your money!!
Yes, that's a very reasonable response
Glad you're more reasoned op!
Your son most likely got those thinfs.
Is this really a big deal?