In trouble and don't get why

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AIBU to be really peed off that I am in trouble for test driving a car this afternoon that my BF got on Thursday for the weekend.

He told me he had it for the weekend and wanted me to drive it to see how I would feel. We live together so it would be one of two family cars. He has had it since Thursday and has been driving it around. He told me today was my turn. Anyway, he goes out cycling at 7.30am and I leave out at 12.50pm (he's still not back) to pick up a friend and test the car. Being socially adept, I do not feel the need to be checking my mobile phone when in a 1:1 situation as I myself find it incredibly frustrating when others do this. Anyway, at 4.15 friend goes to the loo after we pay the coffee bill and I check my phone to find BF and my DS have sent several texts telling me off for not having the car back as a) they want to drive it and b) it needs to be back at the dealership. I was not told it needed to be back so I phoned BF, to be told off for being 20 miles away and that it needs to go back asap. I said that had I known I would have been back. He then said it wasn't just fault, I should have known, ranted a bit more then cut me off! Tried calling him again, line busy. He phoned me back 2 mins later, again ranting and cut me off again whilst I'm trying to defend myself. I took the car back to the garage who said I could have kept it another day. Got home to another telling off and asked if had I considered he might want it again! I gave him a round of 'f's as I could not believe the way he had acted, the way he had spoken to me and also incredulous at his utter selfishness.

AUBU? I have give the facts exactly as they are. I'm not feeling sorry for myself but I'm still seething. How would you feel?

nocool you don't think the OP holds any responsility in this situation?

😂 no we don't all shout at each other. I was astounded at his reaction which is why I told him in no uncertain terms what I thought. And to be given a car for the entire weekend... would you think it meant we had to drive it for 72 hours non stop? No, the whole point of having it for a weekend is to see if it fits in with your lifestyle. Having a meet up with a friend is in most people's lifestyles isn't it? It was an electric car so important to see if it fits ours. DS is 20 so more than grown up enough to get a 'gobful' if he's being cheeky/out of order. Also, how odd that someone should think I need to check in after 4 hours when BF is out 7 hours and no one suggesting he checks in or tells me what he's up to. Perhaps I should chain myself to the house like good little wifey 😂😂😂

"how odd that someone should think I need to check in after 4 hours when BF is out 7 hours and no one suggesting he checks in or tells me what he's up to."

He didn't have the car for those 7 hours did he? The only reason he was trying to get hold of you was because you had the car. So weird that you took it out for so long and didn't check your phone the whole time.

Rightly or wrongly, your partner thought the car had to go back today, so was frustrated when you took it and then didn't answer your phone for hours.

Pretty simple really and nothing to do with being a good little wifey

You said he was out on a bike ride so you knew where he was?

Would it really have been that big a deal to say where you were going and what time you would be home? It's not about being a good little wifey, it's about being a bit more thoughtful.

If him shouting at you was out of order, rather than shouting and swearing back and gobbing off at your son, try talking to find out why he reacted like that.

Are 12 year olds even allowed to drive?

The last time your boyfriend seen or spoke to you was at 7.50am, before your test drive.
You then went out for almost 4 hours for coffee with a friend and didn't bother to check your phone once.

Did you let BF know your test drive as an all day affair?
Do you think picking someone up and having coffee counts as a test drive? Leaving at the back of twelve to go 20 miles might only take a half hour or so meaning you weren't actually test driving the car. You spent more time in the house and with your friend than you did test driving it.

You also shouldn't have returned it to tje garage, that wasn't your decision.

Your BF has serious communication issues, as does your son, but you need to accept that you were not test driving a car the entire day and you were not communicating either.

Everyone is at fault here.

DS is 20 so more than grown up enough to get a 'gobful'

Aren't you a delight