To be this hacked off at the MIL?!

[Madeaminnieme]

So we all know there's this craze for the fidget spinners just now.
I was in my MIL's last week and the discussion came up about them. I said my 6 year old DS's school was only allowing them for this kids with attention issues as they were designed for and because of recent injury reports plus the fact there is nothing wrong with my DS's attention I told my MIL wasn't buying him one. I said I didn't want to fall into the trap of buying him any new craze every time they came up incase one of them was something we couldn't afford. I was also concerned about the injury's being reported.
I've nothing against other parents getting their kids one but that's how I feel.
Anyway, this week for whatever reason, my MIL wanted to get herself one and also got one for my DS.
AIBU to be hacked off that she disregarded what I said and gave him one. Not to mention completely taken aback why a 65 year old would want one?

I want one now!

It's an inexpensive toy, not a bottle of Buckfast. Your ds is fortunate to have a grandparent who wants to indulge him. YABU.

How can MIL 'overrule' the OP? Hardly her place.

yanbu, I would be really annoyed at the overruling. There was a thread on here a couple of days ago about how lots of schools are banning them as they are so distracting in school.

My (lovely) MIL would've heard "DS" and "fidget spinner" in the same sentence and immediately bought one - she would've completely forgotten the context. Like the year she bought half the family the same things for Christmas as me (only nicer as she has more money) as we'd had an idle chat about Christmas shopping earlier in the month. Not done slyly at all, that's not her style, those associations were just made in her mind and she forgot why.

How can MIL 'overrule' the OP? Hardly her place

Her place? She's the childs grandmother, not staff. She doesn't have a place.

What injuries?

Totally agree with the poster who is questioning the suggestion that the MIL remembers her 'place'. Some MN posters are very controlling and obviously think that mil is equivalent to staff.

The trouble is that your reasons for banning them come down to "I don't want him to have one". Which does seem unnecessarily controlling.

I still want to know how you can injure yourself with a fidget spinner.

In the olden days we had Clackers. Now, there was a craze you could really hurt yourself with if you put your mind to it.

Remember when the craze was loom bands? There were all sorts of weird injuries from them as well. Basically it's law of averages - it's an item a lot of people are using - there will be accidents!

What injuries?

www.thesun.co.uk/tech/3487718/mums-fidget-spinner-warning-after-sonnearly-loses-eye-practising-tricks-and-is-left-with-scarring/

This child threw one up in the air and it landed on his face!! His mother said “He was very lucky not to lose his eyesight let alone his eyeball.”

Is it repetitive strain injuries from spinning continuously?

That's the only one I saw when I did a search. There are probably more lego related injuries than fidget spinner ones. They are certainly not a dangerous toy.

Accidents mainly from adults who have managed to cut themselves throwing them in the air.

Two children both throwing in the air. One chipped a tooth. The other nearly blind.

Used correctly they are safe. Chucking them in the air isn't what they were designed for

You can throw any toy in the air and they could be unsafe! Ridiculous to blame the toy.

Wow? I wish my life was so simple I had the time and energy to waste on drama because someone bought my child a fidget spinner.

Grandmothers, do that. While its not a great answer. Try being overruled, in a restaurant by the in laws. When child wont eat dinner, and you say no pudding. Then they buy, not one, but two desserts for said child in case he goes hungry! Its a pick you battle kinda thing.

According to the kids and teachers at DS1's school, they are NOT "completely silent" as it states in that article. Of course, the original proper ones might be, but the cheapo knock-offs that everyone at school seems to have aren't, and they're very distracting.

But there's substantially no difference between what your ILs do, and what the OP's MIL has done, LittleBoo - in both cases, you've said no to your children, and the IL has stepped in and overruled you. It's the same thing, regardless of what the object was.

You think my life is simple?! Ever occur to you that MAYBE this is one of many occasions I have been over ruled or had comments made to me so I am now starting to feel like a failure of a mum? Or maybe I am trying to juggle a full time job, work on a uni degree and now facing cut backs so having to job hunt on an urgent basis?
Yeah snapping now because I'm not in a good place mentally

£4.... DD haggled and got hers for £3.

The cats spend all evening watching it spinning on the floor and when it stops they try to spin it themselves

OP you are not a failure as a mother.
Modern motherhood is v different from what she knew and juggling everything is hard.
If she's overruling you a lot, this is going to hack you off.
Take three deep breaths, tell her you didn't appreciate that in a rational manner, don't expect her to do it again, end the conversation.

I don't think this is about the fidget spinner then. That's what you've posted about and based on that, you are being unreasonable. I hope you get some help with the things that are really bothering you.

We have five at home - lots of ASD. With regard to injuries, don't spin too close to long hair, or have the five spinning too closely to each other at the same time. Yields interesting results!

The cats spend all evening watching it spinning on the floor and when it stops they try to spin it themselves

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