To be shitting myself right now...?!

[ScouseBird8364]

I'm off out on my first date of over 10 years

Sorry to post in AIBU but I know I'll get more traffic here from you lovely, supportive lot

Seriously though, what do I talk about, without ranting on about my kids too much?!?

Ask your date questions about him/her, then you don't need to worry about what you say/don't say. You'll be fine. but don't drink too much!

I always drove to dates and met somewhere in the middle.

This was after one where I got horrendously drunk and ended up sleeping with someone I had met 2 hours earlier.

Have fun!

Brighton

Have a fabulous time!

Don't be on your phone too much

No politics! Nothing too deep on a first date.

Just stuff like where did they grow up? Family? Hobbies? Holidays? Work?

Have fun!

Say you are nervous, smile, be yourself.
Enjoy it!

^ Don't be on your phone at all! Massively rude on a date!

Ask him lots of questions, talk about any hobbies you have? What is on your bucket list... favourite music/comedians/films/TV shows?

Enjoy!!!

And yes, don't get your phone out rather than talk to them!

Talk about : the weather? [are you British?]

Music, movies, maybe politics if you're brave!
Enjoy, I got back into dating after being married for 10 years then separated for 3. Now disgustingly happy with an amazing man I met through online dating.

Don't waste your time with a second date if you don't fancy them.

Talk about work, interests, aspirations. Even if some of them were/are a long time ago or a long time away!
Ask questions. Try to engage with his answers.
If he has kids talk about kids. Try not to rant about them too much!
And enjoy. Even if there is awkwardness at the start, if he's right for you then you should start to feel more relaxed as you talk more. Unless of course you end up fancying him way too much in which case you may not!!

Oooh good luck!! How exciting and scary!!

Talk about what you are both interested in, then you can see whether you have much in common or even how well you banter if you have different interests! It's less daunting if you think of it as a short evening meeting someone who can tell you interesting stuff or hobbies you've never even thought about! And someone other than your DC who you can impress with your dress style and maybe even wear heels for (assuming you are a female... Or a flamboyant man!! )

(But stay off of politics, Brexit or exes as topics in first date! )

Have some questions in your mind for any quiet/awkward moments -
stuff that is quite lighthearted - so will not lead into heavy/political territory but can be expanded upon. So stuff like:

What was your favourite holiday whilst growing up? Ask him why - the people, the place, that things he was doing?
What did you play with? Lego? Games consoles?
What silly rules can you remember from being a child (not allowed to watch children's ITV was something that DH and in common )
Does you have/did you have a dream car/job/hobby - is it still your dream? If so are you doing anything to achieve it? If not, why not - is it now really naff/out of date?

And enjoy!

Play the game, not the occasion.

Talk about politics if they are important to you. If not, I agree don't.

How did it go?

Thanks for all the replies guys!

Feeling gutted actually, I just don't feel like I'm girlfriend / partner material

I'm a self-proclaimed nerd, I love the arts, theatre, architecture, opera, true crime, my studies (Psychology) whereas he was a real guys guy if you get me.

Will I ever find a guy out there who likes this stuff and is interested in me, or do they all just want some typical cloned-barbie who gets her nails done every week, only reads the OK magazine and watches nothing but Geordie Shore and who also swears like a trooper?

I'm worrying Scouse guys are just after this?

Sympathies OP - there must be some nerdy sexy cool blokes in your area though. Wonder where they are... Arts / comedy / theatre gigs?

There are guys out there for you, I'm a total nerd, still found my guy online. You maybe need to be more discerning before meeting someone?
I wasn't looking for a 'lad', they were quite easy to spot online to be honest so I just didn't waste my time!

Hey, don't be so hard on yourself, OP! You got yourself up and out there. Well done! And even if it wasn't a huge success, the next one might be better? You sound a lot like me. Nerds unite!

You will. It's a cliche but it will happen when you don't expect it. I was by myself for years (bar the accidental sleeping with someone I just met incident) and last year moved in with someone. Never thought it would happen to me.