To expect my almost 5 year old to do as he is told most of the time?

[LoudestRoar]

Today has been another circle of me asking nicely to listen to me, and to do as he is told, only to have him ignore me, and carry on with whatever it is I've asked him not to.
Normally it's to please leave his little brother alone, but it can be any number of things. I just really shouted as I'd just had a conversation about how he needs to listen (which he agreed with!) Only in the next second to play with the door I'd just asked him to leave alone!
I can hear dh downstairs having the same issue over tidying up. I'm at my wits end, and hate having to yell. I'm not the only one, am I?

TittyGolightly,
No ,I totally agree with you and my daughter is 7.
Great post.
Here is a saying we have in our family,
Our daughter is a Leader not a Follower.

Comparing asking a child to do something to slavery/concentration camps? Not exactly an equal comparasion, is it?
Regardless of how much freedom I want my child to have, if they are doing something to either hurt them, someone else, or damaging property, I don't think it's too much to ask them to stop, and them do so straight away, instead of just ignoring me.

Today has been another circle of me asking nicely to listen to me, and to do as he is told, only to have him ignore me, and carry on with whatever it is I've asked him not to.
Normally it's to please leave his little brother alone, but it can be any number of things.

I was going off this. How was anyone go know it was all "valid"?

I have no answers for you. But could have written this.

We've actually had a good couple of days, not 100%, but much better than before.